Sept 3: Stay Open

Night One. Here We Go. 

First things first, congrats on committing to yourself and taking steps towards making the reality you want – your reality. 

Every evening we will send you a text message on your phone, you check-in, and unlock this Daily Dose content. Read it, take from it what you need, then focus on you for a few hours. Closer to bed time we'll text you one more time to help you wrap up and get to bed. No one does well on sleep deprivation. 

For so many of us, our evenings are quickly eaten up by supper, maybe some tv or movies, some more time spent online or getting ready for the next day, and suddenly it's 11 PM and we aren't sure where our evening went. But we are too tired to analyze anything and we crash, only to wake up and rush to work half asleep then repeat. And repeat. and repeat. 

Sound familiar?

By committing to Damn Focused Nights, you are committing to yourself, to protecting a few hours each evening to focus on the life and dreams that you want, but that often get trampled on due to other distractions and exhaustion. You are giving you the chance to reclaim your time, your focus, and your life.

That's huge. 

Maybe you have clear plans for what you want to do this with time, or maybe you know you simply want to dedicate time and space to slow down and figure it out.

Both approaches are valuable.

Keep in mind, this is not about doing 'more'. With DFN time, or even Damn Early Days (our morning program), it's not about hustling to do more each day. Simply put, more isn't better.

This is about hitting pause on the distractions and choosing to spend some of the time you have on what we really want. Sometimes that means action on a project, sometimes that means soaking in the slowness of a few hours just for you. So don't feel the need to fill every second of your DFN time with more. Instead, fill it only with what matters, and block out everything else for a few hours.

This is your time. The world can wait until.


With the Daily Dose ideas, articles and challenges we send you this month, you always have a choice--deep down ultimately only you know what you need. You can do some, none, or all of them and then choose again the next day.

Whatever you choose to do with these evenings, we challenge you: go all in.  Go all in with every minute of time you carve out this month.

The more you put in to prioritizing and exploring you this month, the more you will get out of this. 

Especially with the writing prompts and challenges: do them. Do the work.

It can be easy to read a question on your phone and think about it for a minute, and then tell yourself "yup, I did the work, I know my answers".

But there is something very different that shifts in us when we put pen to paper and writing out what we really think about with a question or when we make a real list. Thinking about the answer isn't enough. Write, cross it out, erase, until you get it right.

This opportunity, this program, will only work if you do. 

As you scheme, dream and show up for yourself tonight---

Your Challenge:

Grab paper or your notebook and begin to list ideas and plans for your DFN evenings. A list you are stoked and looking forward to.

At the bottom, finish with these two words:

Stay Open. 

Sounds simple, but it's not easy. So often we think we need to plan and control things int order to make 'progress.' But in fact, when we're open to what could be, we're truly alive.

As you go through Damn Focused Nights, let your walls down and explore the hell out of this life and this nightly adventure. 

As you go through this, make some space for new experiences to come in and rock your world. Don't be afraid to try on different things that might or might not work.

Let them shake you up and flip switches in your mind. It's about letting go of the blocks, emotions, old mental patterns, that keeps us where we are.

It's the only way to find out what you truly want, and become who you really are. Stay open.

So with that, dive into your evening, start building a routine that feels good--we'll have some more tips on that tomorrow.

PS. We built this program on a foundation that community matters in this--life isn't a solo experience, and having people nudging us and supporting us makes all the difference. Come and add your voice to the DED and DFN community. Drop into the group and share how your first evening went. Your sharing throughout will help you and others get a better understand of what works, doesn't work, and what you need. It's about all of us, getting after what we know is inside of us, together.


Gordon Swenson