Protestant values: work hard suppress feelings.
Stoic values: work hard and feel nothing (actually a misconception)
Elite performers everywhere: work hard and tap into, harness, create, and enjoy the energy and gifts your emotions can bring you.
Something that either gets so little love and attention in our society, or gets vilified, but is a major marker of success and subjective enjoyment: How do we feel? And even more importantly, how do we want to feel? How can we change our feelings?
This could be a massive post. And if you want more on this I’d love to hear it. But for today, let’s keep it really simple, because you can get a boost by just asking these two simple questions:
WHAT FEELINGS DO I WANT TO HAVE
How do I want to feel today. Visualize that. Hold it in that space of your mind that isn’t just thoughts. Promise you it will bear fruit.
See yourself being that way. Allow yourself to create the feeling even before thinking you deserve it.
WHAT FEELINGS AM I AVOIDING
Make a little time for this, OR just employ this tactic when they naturally come up:
Feel them. Meet them. Be vulnerable. Let them go. Or channel them upwards (give yourself permission to have what you feel is an edge - just make sure you’re working it upward in a positive way.)
If we do have the courage to meet our monsters, give them permission to exist, we will watch them lose their hold on us and their energy, fading away in the moment and more and more over time.
if you’ve been storing these up, when you go into this space, know this with certainty: they are not you. No matter what math your brain crunches or stories it tells you or feelings of comfort and identification are drawn towards. No matter how convincing the inner arguments are. It’s just not true.
How do you want to feel. Today. Next week. For the rest of your life.
Take that power back.
Here’s a quick video by Joe Dispenza that is worth a watch: