Nov 16: Take a Moment

Nov 16: Take a Moment

As we roll into the end of the second week this month, we want to take a moment and look at the bigger picture.

You are no newbie to Damn Early mornings, but whether you have done this program twice or all year, hitting pause, checking in with yourself and looking at where you are at is key.

If you don’t, it’s too easy to slip into a comfortable DEL routine and lose sight of what really matters, what you want, and where you want to go.

Before We Look Ahead

Before looking at what's ahead, it’s worth taking time to sit back and reflect on what just happened.

Most of us have a fear of slowing down – unwilling to stop long enough to let what we’re doing catch up to us. Maybe this is because we don’t want to confront how we spend our time or maybe it's scary to pause and go under the layers for a bit. But if there’s anything history has taught us, it’s that slowing down to reflect only helps us move faster, further, and most importantly - more purposefully.

your challenge this AM - take 5 minutes to to reflect on what these last two weeks have been for you.

We're serious. 

It's simple, but powerful. And no matter how many times you have done DED or DEL, this makes a difference.

It will not only make a big difference in the rest of your Damn Early Life experience this month, but if you incorporate reflection into your life, it will have a huge impact on where you end up.

To get you started, we got some simple questions... look up from the screen and think about each one, write them down, it's up to you.

Here we go.

Questions Worth Thinking About

Keep in mind these are just a guideline to get you started. Your reflection is an exercise in asking the questions you care about.

About Damn Early Days:

Ask yourself:

  • What have you gained from waking up early this month?

  • What are your biggest struggles so far? Are they the same or different than past rounds of DED/DEL?

  • What positive stories have you been telling yourself throughout?

  • What self-defeating stories have you been telling yourself throughout?

  • Do you feel you're getting closer to what you want?

  • What differences do you notice in your life, routine, and mood before and during Damn Early Life?

  • Were there mornings that were particularly tough? Why?

  • Were there mornings that were particularly enjoyable? Why?

Looking Forward:

Ask yourself:

  • Put yourself in your own shoes at the end of this month. This program continues month after month, but it’s helpful to think about life in months. What do you want out of this? What defines “success”?

  • What do you want to feel at the end of this month?

  • What do you need to do next week to move yourself closer to your own success?

  • What can you carry into next week that you learned this week? What can you drop?

  • What’s the top priority in your life right now?

  • How can you use Damn Early Life to focus on it?

And of course...

Nov 15: Life In Perspective

Nov 15: Life In Perspective

Here we are go, one more early morning. Waking up, and focusing on what we want to get done this morning.

It can be hard to remember to look at the big picture—I mean the REALLY big picture— and remind ourselves of the value of a single day, of this week, or even this month within the larger context of your life.

So before you get going with your day, let’s take a moment to remind ourselves of the bigger picture — with a bit of help courtesy of our friend Tim Urban at Wait But Why.

We share this during pasts cycles of Damn Early Days because, in all honesty, it is still one the of the most powerful reminders we have seen.

No lie, we look at it ourselves at least once a month and it still feels like a wake up call, every damn time.

So, we like to use it as a monthly reminder for all of us in the DED team as well. The message, the reminder it gives us, its at the crux of why we started Damn Early Days in the first place.

So here's a wake up call for you this morning. Here is your entire life in months, assuming you live until 90.

Yep, that's all you get.

And considering for most of us at least 25% is already behind us, you can knock off the first 7 or 8 rows. The rest is what you have to spend as you please.

Looking at it that way, it's simple (and powerful) to understand why how you spend your time matters so much. It puts into perspective what is and isn't important.

Think about it:

  • If you drink a good cup of coffee each morning, that's just 20,000 "first cups" left. Enjoy.

  • If you get 4 good hugs a week, that's just 12,500 good hugs left in your life.

  • If you see your parents once every three months and they live for another 40 years, that’s just 120 more times you'll see them.

  • If you go on two good vacations each year, that means you have no more than 120 vacations left in your life.

  • If you see an old friend once a year, that's just ~60 more times you will see them in your life.

  • If you go on a rad road trip once every 3 years, that's just ~20 left in life.

You get the point...

How you spend your time in the days and weeks matters, because they add up to months, months add up to years, and those years are all you get.

It's quick, it's simple, and it's one of the most important things you can understand.

This mornings post will help you do that. Take a dive in, it's one of the best we've ever read.

And of course, your morning jam...

Nov 14: Flow

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Nov 14: Flow

No focus, No flow.
— Christine Carter

Maybe you have felt it. That mental state, our “sweet spot,” when we are challenged and our skills are being put to full use and the world flows. When we are so focused on a project, a task that we enjoy that hours seem to fly by in no time. 

Have you felt it this past week with your Damn Early Days?

We know that mornings can be hard times to shut out the world and focus--especially if we had a late bedtime. But when well-rested, the silent hours of the morning when no one needs us can be powerful.

If you’ve had trouble getting into a flow these mornings, or even making the most of your morning time, here are a few tips to shift you mindset and set you up for your best chances to slip into your Flow.

When is the last time you lost time, working on a project you liked? 

  • Make a list of what it was, where, when. The details. That's your formula. 

How is your environment right now?

  • This makes a huge difference in our ability to focus. Take 5 and tidy your work space, then com back. Or do you create and work best in a coffee shop, around others? Write it out.

How is the sound in this space?

  • Do you get lost with music, or ambient sounds of your home or a coffee shop? Think about it. For some of us, some kinds of music help us zone out, for others, music is great for some tasks but is a subtle distraction, preventing us from ever fully focusing. Make note.

How is my mental space

  • Take 5 to clear your mental clutter from yesterday or what’s coming later in your day -- 5 minutes to brain dump, make a to-do list, whatever you need in order to empty it so you can hit pause on your planning mind, and so you feel no balls have been dropped. Leave it all on the paper.

Make a plan for the AM—more than routines

  • Knowing what you want to do next--especially in a big project or goal--helps your flow from one state with ease. Riding the wave from one step to the next.

What distracts you?

  • Name them, own them, and find simple solutions to shut them down. Turn it off. Take a minute to anticipate your needs and take care of them now

Prime your body

  • Grab a snack, and water. Concentration and focus actually take a lot of mental and physical effort, and blood sugar and water have been proven to help with mental clarity and boosting concentration.

Take a breath

  • Close your eyes and deep breathe for 1 minute -- settle your mind in order to it know it's time to let go of the day, focus nervous system and maximize blood flow in our brain

What tips or routine help you focus and get into your flow? Drop a message over on the Discord, or the DED Facebook Group. We want to keep learning from the community, and the many ways to flow. 

Got some chill vibes for your morning jam right here for ya, then turn this phone off and get flowing. 

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Nov 13: The Power of Doing Nothing

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Nov 13: The Power of Doing Nothing

Yesterday we suggested that you pause and do nothing with your morning coffee, and this morning we wanted to explore that a bit further with this quick read from entrepreneur, developer, writer and storyteller Aytekin Tank.


Each of us who signed up for DEL did so because we are working on something, working towards goals, or continuing exploration or plans we have been focusing on for some time. But to do more, to get more done, to make progress on the things we care about, it’s really valuable to also make time to do nothing.

Nada, rien, nothing. Actually scheduling intentional time for nothing.

Click below for a quick read on this idea, and consider how nothing could help your day (est. reading time 6 min)

So, your challenge today—look at your plan for this morning or today and book in some intentional time for nothing.

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Nov 12: Get Out

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Nov 12: Get Out

The difference between rising at five and seven o’clock in the morning, for forty years, supposing a man to go to bed at the same hour at night, is nearly equivalent to the addition of ten years to a man’s life.
— Doddridge

Let that thought sink in for a minute.

 

Pretty powerful, hey? This time, every morning, adds up to so much more.

How has it felt, adding a few hours to your life this past week?

How has it impacted how the rest of your day has felt?

 

For this morning

Nothing long to read, but instead an invitation to create space of nothing, in order to make room for everything. 

Simply--take your morning tea or coffee outside.

It could be a walk with a real mug in your hands, sitting on the grass outside your apartment building, or on your balcony.  If it’s snowy—do it anyway. We dare you.

You can choose to make that nothing time phone-free, but if you're down, would love to see a photo of your view. Share it on the DED FB group or our DEL Discord group (have you signed up yet? Jessa emailed you a link). Share so that we can all see the morning view this morning from around the world.

Spend that time fully engaged in nothing, and everything.

Every sip.

Every sigh of the morning wind.

Every thought that comes to mind now that there is finally some much needed stillness that can allow for possibility. 

Then see how your the rest of your morning feels.

 

While you make your cup and head outside, press play below on your slow morning jam .....  

 

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Nov 9: Foundations

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Nov 9: Foundations

What do you need?

Think about it for a second.

This program was designed to help you carve out your own time and space, block the world out, and how you fill it is up to you.

But whether you have projects and clear goals in mind, or are using this time to pause, reset, or explore, you won't get where you want to go without setting yourself up on your own strong foundation 

So, what do you need for that foundation below your feet?

To answer that, we have a little challenge for ya:

step 1: Look Back

We'd like you to stop for a moment, and think back to a time when it felt like you were smashing life.

Maybe it was last week, or yesterday, maybe it was 8 years ago. There is no gain or shame about when the last time you felt you were on top of life. All that matters is you find a moment and we'll dig into it.

step 2: Explore Context

Let's explore exactly what was the context. We need to get specific about what unique combination of factors came together that helped you feel so stoked on life. 

Ask yourself:

What was I doing? Why did I love it?

How was the rest of my life--socially, health, etc?

Be as specific as possible describing that time in your life.

step 3: Break it down. 

Using the form below, get these ideas out. Take that memory, explore it, and translate it into a blueprint for the foundation that feels the best for you.

We'll email it back to you, and if we don't hear from ya, we'll be in touch. We want to nudge you towards clear steps and priorities for living the life you really want, and making it sustainable. 

Describe in detail what felt so good about life in that memory. What else was going well in your life then, that together, made the perfect storm to smash it. Make a list of the key points, the things you need in a foundation to feel that way again. Start small, don't hold back. Just keep the flow going. This list--it's your foundation, it's your blueprint. So we'll send it back to ya soon!

Here's an morning jam below while you scheme. 

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Nov 8: 80/20

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Nov 8: 80/20

As you are planning and getting going this month on your morning routines, your goals, or your intentions for this last push of 2018, we wanted to drop this article in for you.

It’s by Mark Manson, American writer, blogger and entrepreneur. You may remember, several of his past articles we’ve shared in DED this year have been DED community favorites, and his book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck continues to be a best seller.

Today, a quick read about a simply tool to help you evaluate your time, your focus, and the people, things and priorities in your life — the 80/20 Principle—for your life.

It’s a fast read, only 4 minutes. Then, get on with your morning and the things that really matter to you.

Your Challenge — Take 5 and ask yourself what changes could you make in your life today based on the 80/20 Principle?

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Nov 7: Means To Live

Nov 7: Means To Live

 
Ever more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.
— Victor Frankl
 

We're At Our Highest And Our Lowest

As a race, collectively, we are at the highest level of performance, or degree of thriving that any human has ever been on the earth to see (just look here or here, or here or here).

It's incredible. We are lucky to be alive right now.

But, right now, compared to our potential that is sitting at our fingertips, we are also likely at the lowest level humans have ever seen: the freedom, resources and knowledge available to us are immense... 

 
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And yet, we choose to watch cat videos.

 

We’re distracte... ooh, HAVE YOU SEEN THIS VIDEO?

A lot of that is not entirely our fault. For years we've seen and witnessed that "technology is progress". And in time when corporate America seemed to be filled with people who try to game the system, technology came through as an impersonal, benevolent, beacon of light for us all.  

And in so many ways it is. Without technology, the incredible advances in those articles above would not have been possible. 

Because technology has helped us so much, we let our walls down. We scroll endlessly. We entertain ourselves.

But when you have 1000 people at on the other end of the screen working every single day to make the platform more addictive, and hack further down our brainstem it is anything but neutral or helpful. 

There are several good intentions for all this that companies like Facebook believe in, and to their credit, have helped a lot with (creating a more open, connected world for instance). But it's core business metric is not connection... it's time on site.

This attention economy has created competition between all of these organizations that is a race to the bottom - where if one person gains 5% more of your attention each day, that means another loses 5%. They have to go back to the drawing board and become more addictive just to keep up.

Our goal with Chasing Sunrise, 21 DED and Damn Early Life is to give people their lives back - so know that we are in your corner.

We Have A Choice To Make

All this brings us back to the point: our potential as individuals and together a society, at the highest it has ever had the chance of being in history, is sitting there, right in front of us, on the table, while we're scrolling through Instagram.

And part of the reason we aren't dropping the phone, grabbing that potential and taking it out into the world, is because we don't have meaning in our daily lives strong enough to overcome a dopamine rush. 

Fo over 60 years we’ve grown up with television, we went to school with pre-planned curriculum, today we scroll through infinitely long feeds of apps that use algorithms to keep feeding us exactly what will stimulate our personal brains without us having to think.

We have been given our "purpose" in life in so many ways... 

Trouble is, the thing that can save us, isn't something that is going to be fed or shown to us.
It's something we have to create, and then we have to feed it to ourselves every day.

Ultimately, women and men should not ask what the meaning of their life is, but rather they must recognize that it is they who are asked.
— Victor Frankl

 


So Today’s Challenge:

Grab a pencil and notebook, and write or list what comes to mind when I ask you:

What is your meaning to life? Do you have one?

I don’t mean what goals you are working on this month for DEL, but what’s inside, under that. What’s actually driving your goals? What do your goals add up to, what do they mean for you?

If it’s hard to answer, that’s actually really powerful. Sit with that question and don't give up on it, because it's arguably the best thing you can do for yourself, and the best thing you can do for all of us.

Got a few things written down, now go down another layer and try to answer:

What are you wanting to live for?

What is something so important to you that you would be willing to die for? 



Spend some time this morning here, on what gives your life meaning, or at least sitting and exploring that question. See if it has any impact on how you approach the rest of your morning, or the rest of your day.


#MakeItCount

And, of course, a morning jam. Something mellow as you think this morning ….







Nov 6: Priorities Over Urgency

Nov 6: Priorities Over Urgency

Start Your Day With Your #1 Priority
(Not with what’s urgent)

It's where most of us screw up. We put the "urgent" stuff in front of the important stuff – again and again and again.

At first, this makes sense, but after a week, a month, a year, a lifetime, we realize we've focused on everything but what actually matters to us...

Sound familiar? Read on...

 

It’s easy to start the day with something that seems good, but ultimately isn’t all that important.

And as our boy Jim Collins said, “Good is the enemy of great.”

Each morning, there are countless good things you could do.

But the real question you should be asking is "what is the FIRST thing you should do?"

 

What’s the ideal way you want to/need to START your day?

For each of us, that will depend on our #1 priority at the moment.

If it’s your business, you should probably get moving on your business.

If it’s your physical health, you should probably get yourself to the gym or on the mat at home.

If it's taking more time to unwind, then sit down, sip your coffee and read a damn book for once. Before anything else.

In his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective PeopleStephen Covey explains the importance of putting “first things, first.” To illustrate the concept, you’ve probably heard it before—-Covey puts several rocks in a bucket. When you put the little rocks in first, you can’t fit all of the big rocks.

But when you start with the big rocks, the little rocks can easy fill the empty spaces.

This is how life works. If you need a visual, check it here.

 

Now - if you have heard of that metaphor before, cool. Question for ya — be honest with yourself, are you filling your life lately with the big rocks first, or the small ones?

How you start something determines your path

Getting up early isn’t really the point of Damn Early Life.

The point is to focus on what matters and to do so you need to put the right things first.

Otherwise, what's the point?

When you put your top priorities first, you ensure they make it into the bucket – every single day.

After your main priorities have been ticked off, the rest of your life will fill the gaps.

And trust us, the gaps always get filled.

Knowing this is essential to making the right decisions.

The best decision makers (and the most successful/happy people) do things that simultaneously make everything else in their life easy.

They focus on the stuff that matters first.

They make the one decision that makes several other decisions either irrelevant or easier.

When you fill your time only with the best and most important, then you never have to settle and soon other choices and factors start to take care of themselves.

The distractions and lower priorities are either given their allotted time or they disappear from your life.

So with that, this morning’s challenge:

I want you to write a list of your highest priorities and focus on the top one.

Let everything else flow from there this morning.

Simple, right?

Make that list, and take a serious look at it — how often you are investing in those priorities, especially your #1, a little every day? How often are the little stones getting in the way?

Today, right now, your time is yours and you can choose.

Make time this morning to finally focus on that #1.

And a chill tune to play to as you do so.

Nov 5: Stay Open, Get Clear

Nov 5: Stay Open, Get Clear

Life, Damn Early. Here We Go. 

First things first, congrats on committing to yourself and taking steps towards making the reality you want – your reality. 

We’re taking the structure of Damn Early Days, and building on it for those in the community looking for more. You are part of this. What you want and need in order to get to your next level—matters. And we’ll be focused on getting your feedback and ideas as we create this, to help get you where you want to go. It’s not a set program like 21, but one based on you. It’s creating the lives we want, a bit every day, together.

Every morning we will send you a text message on your phone, you check-in, and unlock this DEL Daily Dose content. Read it, take from it what you need, then focus on you for a few hours.

Closer to bed time we'll text you one more time to Check Out, help you wrap up and get to bed. No one does well on sleep deprivation. And, as you’ve probably felt before—win at bedtime, and you’ll win the morning.

 

Maybe you have clear plans and goals for what you want to do this with time, or maybe you know you simply want to dedicate time and space to slow down and figure it out.

Both approaches are valuable.

Keep in mind, this is not about doing 'more'. It's not about hustling to do more each day. Simply put, more isn't better.

This is about hitting pause on the distractions and choosing to spend some of the time you have on what you really want. Sometimes that means action on a project, sometimes that means soaking in the slowness of this time. So don't feel the need to fill every second of your DEL time with more. Instead, fill it only with what matters, and block out everything else for a few hours.

This is your time. The world can wait.


YOU HAVE CHOICE

With the Daily Dose ideas, articles and challenges we send you, you always have a choice--deep down ultimately only you know what you need. You can do some, none, or all of them and then choose again the next day.

Whatever you choose to do with these mornings, we challenge you: go all in.  Go all in with every minute of time you carve out in these mornings.

The more you put in to prioritizing and exploring you in this program, the more you will get out of this. 

When you do the writing prompts and challenges— really do them. Do the work.

It can be easy to read a question on your phone and think about it for a minute, and then tell yourself "yup, I did the work, I know my answers".

But there is something very different that shifts in us when we put pen to paper and writing out what we really think about with a question or when we make a real list. Thinking about the answer isn't enough. We’ve seen the difference and impact in DED members who write and really do the work to get clear about themselves and the lives they are building. So write, cross it out, erase, until you get it right.

This opportunity, this program, will only work if you do. 


Your Challenge:

get clear

(or at least, start)

grab a pen and paper and actually write out the answers to:

What do I actually want?

Why did I really sign up for this—deep down, what am I looking for that I hope this program and community can help me with?

What do I want to prove to myself more than I want to continue living the same way I was in October?

At the bottom, finish with these two words:

Stay Open. 

Sounds simple, but it's not easy. So often we think we need to plan and control things int order to make 'progress.' But in fact, when we're open to what could be, we're truly alive.

As you go through Damn Early Life, let your walls down and explore the hell out of this life and this damn early adventure. We’ll be emailing you to ask what you want and need in life right now — keep those walls down and let us know what’s on your mind.

As you go through this, make some space for new experiences to come in and rock your world. Don't be afraid to try on different things that might or might not work.

Let them shake you up and flip switches in your mind. It's about letting go of the blocks, emotions, old mental patterns, that keeps us where we are.

It's the only way to find out what you truly want, and become who you really are. Stay open.

So with that, dive into your morning, start building a routine that feels good or build on one you have going--we'll have some more tips on that tomorrow.

#MakeItCount

And here’s a morning jam for ya to get things rolling…

 
 

Oct 31: Don't Give Up

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Oct 31: Don't Give Up

Here we are, on the final day of this round of DEL.

Ask yourself —

So, what do I want now, on the other side of all this?

Where do I want to go from here?

The truth is most people go to their grave living a life far below their potential. With their wishes and dreams buried deep inside of them, almost extinguished from decades of being ignored.

They cover the fire that was once burning inside them with the bullsh*t the world wants to sell us. Cheap thrills, addictive apps, and substance-less products.

We become convinced that the job is more important than our dreams and that security is more necessary to us than the very adventures that make us feel alive.

But they got it all wrong.

The truth is, what we need more than anything is to live a life aligned with who we are.

If that's painting, then go paint.

If that’s exploring, then go explore.

If it’s building companies, traveling, love, or being a partner, then go do that.

It doesn't matter what they are, just please just don't ignore your dreams.

Play with them, explore them, let them burn inside you.

No, you may not be able to make a "career" out of them. You might not be able to even make a penny from them, but please, don't ignore them all together.

Wake up insanely early, work on them under the moonlight, or sneak some time in between your kid's soccer game.

We don't care what you do, but just that you do it. Please, don't give up on them all together.

If we can help you get there, let us know. We’re all in. And we got one more morning jam for ya....

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Oct 30: Turns Out You're Kind of Like A Cat

Oct 30: Turns Out You're Kind of Like A Cat

Estimated Read Time: 3 minutes

Okay, I admit the title was a little bit click-baity, but it's way past my bedtime writing this, and I needed something to get your attention this early in the morning. Aaaand when you're done reading this morning's post, you'll realize it's actually kind of true.

No, I'm don't mean it in a way where you get to sleep 18 hours a day [HA!], I mean it in a way where if you do it right, you get way more lives than just one.

We often just don't choose to see it that way.

Take a read and you'll understand why.

PS. I still have no idea how I came across this gem, but it was a long time ago and all the credit goes to Zach from Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal. It's been one of those I hold close, refer to often and has given me the confidence to cut out all my other wants and pursue a single crazy idea.

The premise here is really simple, so let's not overcomplicate it.

In a world where we are constantly exposed to millions of different things we could be, many of us run around feeling like we need to be all of them – at the same time.

You know your blog writing, iron pumping, photographer friend who freelance graphic designs, trains puppies on weekends, and curates 100 different Pinterest boards as part of their aspiring interior design career? Yeah, that's what I'm talking about.

It sounds crazy when you put it like that, but with the pressure we put on ourselves after being exposed to all the things again and again, coupled with the constant feeling of not quite being enough, we set out to simultaneously build multiple, often conflicting lives – all at the same time.

The end result: we end up sucking at all of them, having never given a single one the time, dedication and focus it deserves.

Many of us get paralyzed by the thought of giving up the many in pursuit of a single thing. We believe that if we don't do them all right now, we may never end up getting to do them at all.

And while it may be true that we might not get to do ALL of them, it's almost a certainty that we won't get to do any of them well if we straddle, half-in and half-out of many different things.

My advice: take some time to figure out how you want to spend the next good chunk of your life – say 5 to 7 years – and go all in on it with the kind of fanatical insanity that will leave all of your talent and soul on the table. It's the only way you'll ever know what you are actually capable of – and that's something worth spending your life pursuing.

Find comfort in the fact that done right, life is long and you'll get many chances to own many different areas. Done right, you have multiple lifetimes.

Oh, and if you aren't sure what you'd want to spend a part of your life dedicated to then spend the next big chunk of your life dedicated to figuring out what it could be.

That's a worthwhile pursuit in it's own right.

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Oct 29: Get Unstuck

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Oct 29: Get Unstuck

This morning, we have been pulling gems out of this jam-packed Tedx Talk from Bosco Anthony, who gives us tools, strategies and reminders about reflecting on the stories we tell ourselves, finding ways to live by design rather than default, and prioritizing purpose as we create our lives.

 

Hit play, soak in his stories, and try one of his ideas in your day today. See how it feels.

 

PS. Did you know you can watch Youtube videos at your own speed, even 2x? No joke. Click the Settings symbol bottom right of the Youtube video and select your speed. It's a game changer. 

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Oct 26: One Risk

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Oct 26: One Risk

THE WORLD NEEDS MORE OF US TO STOP PLAYING IT SAFE AND START LIVING MORE FULLY. 

 

Remember this from the Daily Dose last week? It was a short, simple, powerful reminder:  

The time you have matters. 

This life, this morning, this hour, and the choices you make, matter. 

 

your challenge was to answer:

1: Where are you playing it safe and small lately?

2. List ways you can choose not to. It's that simple.

 

We saw alot of shares and tags on Instagram about it, and it was really rad to see it hit home for many of us in the community.

But we want to challenge you a bit further ---

 

Did you read that post, feel good, then step out and live a bit more fully this week? Dropped some of your walls holding you back?

Or have you stayed small, playing in your comfort zone?

Write down what comes to mind. we’re serious.

Look at them.

It's one thing to read inspirational ideas that spark something in us, but if we don't do anything with those ideas, they are just noise. Inspiring, uplifting noise, but noise none the less.

And we know we don't need more clutter and noise in our lives. 

your challenge today:

take one risk, try one new thing today

Tell your partner or friend something that you have been holding back, stop holding it inside.

Ask for help with a goal or struggle you are having, others have been there too.

Take the first step towards a project or goal you have but you have been putting off.

Make an amazing breakfast or lunch if you are someone who never takes the time to make good food for your body.

Big or small it doesn't matter. But do it. Words and ideas are empty unless we act on them. 

Would love to know what you did -- drop a note in the Facebook group or email Jessa and let us know.

Now go. Get after it. 

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Oct 25: Nothing to See Here

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Oct 25: Nothing to See Here

Today, no Daily Dose.

Nada.

Zip.

Because you already know what you need.

Ask yourself what you need, what is holding you back, what you want.

What you don’t need is more external ideas, information, and other people’s words telling you how to think or what to do. (I realize the irony as I type these very words. ha! )

So, turn inside right now, listen, and go after what you know to be true this AM

See how that feels.

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Oct 24: Happy? Or Something Else?

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Oct 24: Happy? Or Something Else?

For this morning—an idea for you to play with.

How important is happiness for you?

Is it a priority in your life?

Most of us don’t even blink, the answer is “Yes. For sure. I mean, who doesn’t want to be happy?”


Keeping this mind, we wanted to toss another perspective your way this morning. Hit play on this short video about a different take on happiness, and an alternative to think about — brought to you with some pretty strange little puppets.


So, what do you think?

Agree? Disagree? Play with this idea as you go through your morning.

Have you felt eudaimonia this month — when, in what context? Maybe in these early mornings?

Does this idea resonate with you? Or does happiness ring true for you?

Where do you feel fulfilled? Where do you want more fulfillment?

When we came across this it got us thinking in so many ways—we’d love to hear what you think. Hop over to Facebook (right now) and drop in your thoughts.

 And, a super chill morning jam …

 

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Oct 23: Hurry Up Already...

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Oct 23: Hurry Up Already...

If we make time go fast enough, we’ll end up dead.
— Kareem Samhouri

Have you ever stopped to think about why you’re in such a hurry? Why is the finish line so much more interesting than the race itself? Isn’t there validity in loving the ‘process’, rather than only the ‘end goal’?

I now believe ‘process’ is amazing, but I wasn’t always in agreement.

You see, society made me think otherwise. If I could finish a test faster — and better — than anyone growing up, I won. If I was able to get my work done more quickly and get home to my family, I was being a better father and husband. If I ate my meals more quickly, this gave me more time to focus on “what was important” for the day. If I became successful faster than my peers, I had a better chance of a “happy” life.

Then, I woke up dying. My soul — or the part of me that is far bigger than me — slapped me upside down, made it abundantly clear I was no longer on my directed life path, and laid me out for months. During that time period, I attempted to speed up recovery and get out of bed sooner, for longer, no matter what feat of effort it required.

Fast forward, I continued on my path of impatience, as I began to learn the medical skills that were needed to help me recover, but for others.This “magic”, as I like to call it, was something I wanted to know everything about, right now.

Only recently did I stop and take a deep breath, reconsider ‘process’ over ‘outcome’ and make adjustments to my thinking and being. Only recently did I begin to understand the discovery process is at least as fun as the end-goal. Only recently have I acknowledged that growing and learning is tremendous fun, and burning curiosity creates passion for life. Only recently have I come to the conclusion that I’ve been racing to death, rather than enjoying the moment.

I wish to share with you one of my greatest life lessons, one I learned as a small child and managed to forget: love this moment, and when the next one arrives, love ‘it’ also.

Today’s thought exercise: why are you hurrying? And would it ultimately change the outcome if you kicked back a little, enjoyed the process, and watched yourself reach your goals, one moment at a time?

Written by Kareem Samhouri

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Oct 22: Staring Shame in the Face

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Oct 22: Staring Shame in the Face

Estimated Reading Time: 1 minute + 20 minute video

Today we're switching it up and got a rad video below.

Before we do, take a second to read why this topic is so damn important.

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Back in the 21 DED program you probably remember the Ted Talk on vulnerability by the one and only Brené Brown (if you need a refresher, here it is). Social worker, professor, and expert on the power and fear in vulnerability, the struggles we have with shame, and how we can move past these into a place of living fully, as ourselves. This is her follow-up talk, after that first video went viral. She shares her very human response to that time in her life, and dives into shame fearlessly, in a powerful way.

She defines shame as “ the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection. “

Shame can be a major obstacle for alot of us, and it stops us from truly putting ourselves out there, being seen, and exploring what actually matters to us – and what doesn't.

For many of us, we're never taught how to deal with or heal these feelings, so we spend our time trying to outrun and outsmart it. Avoiding it at all cost, or replaying past weight of shame, holding the memory with us in the present.

So this morning, before we dive into the day, we'll leave you with this –

If you haven't heard of Brené Brown, sit back and submerge yourself. There's a reason her first Ted Talk is still one of the most viewed TED Talks (36 million views) ever. This follow up talk takes it further. Hit play and see what take-aways might resonate for you.

Enjoy.

And because it's almost Friday...

Photo Credit: Ally Pintucci

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Oct 19: That One Thing

Oct 19: That One Thing

There is no passion to be found playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.
— Nelson Mandela

This morning, we're keeping it really simple.  

What do you want.

What comes to mind when you ask yourself that? A few things? Nothing at all? One shining answer?

What do you really want?

Sit with that. 

Then ask yourself: what is the single could I focus on today. Today. And one more thing throughout the weekend that would, without a doubt, bring me closer to what I want?

Start with a bunch of things, play with what you would get out of dedicating yourself to each of them and then whittle it down to a single one.

Does that align with the Summit goals you have for this month? We ask, because sometimes we find the summits we choose in DED are not really what we deeply want. Our drive and motivation can start to drag as the month goes on unless our goal and our why is strongly in alignment with the life we actually want.

So start this day right — make sure you really want the goals you are working on each morning. Change them if you need to, but don't let this month pass you by, chasing a 'should' when you could be taking real steps towards what you want. So check in with yourself, get it straight, and get after it. 

So? What one thing will you do today and this weekend?

Got your morning jam ready for ya....

Oct 18: Reality Check

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Oct 18: Reality Check

You Matter. 

This life you are building? Matters.

This morning matters. 

So stop playing it small.

Stop staying in your comfort zones.

Stop telling yourself this hour, this habit, this morning doesn't really matter.

It does.

Your challenge:

Grab that notebook or paper. Honestly, without judgment, make 2 lists:

1: Where are you playing it safe and small lately?

2. List ways you can choose not to. It's that simple

 

Make each choice today carefully, intentionally with the mindset that this matters. Each choice can help you grow. Don't stress about them, but see them as choices that have purpose. Start with your morning choices and go from there.

Then head into the weekend making every minute count. The time you have matters. 

The world needs more of us to stop playing it safe and start living more fully. 

It's scary, it's uncertain, but it's damn worth it. You came back here for another go at DED. You wanted more. So deep down, you know this matters. 

 

Now go. Get after it. 

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