Jan 18: Look Back, From Afar Pt 5

Jan 18: Look Back, From Afar Pt 5

All this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.


All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper. (Missed one? Find the past Doses here)

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Ready? Here we go with Part 5…

Jump forward, to January 17, 2020.

Say hi to Future You for a moment….

Then write what comes to mind when you say “ I am…”

It could be how you feel, what you are doing, what matters to you….

Simply put, the shift from ‘To Do’ lists to “I am” can help us to think about who we want to be and the life we want for our Future Self in a way where we really own it, and embody it. Life isn’t about to do lists and goal lists, it’s about being, living, feeling, and owning your story and experience in this life.

I am

I am

I am

Explore these today, write out your response, and then get rolling on your morning. Make it a priority to start today focusing on what matters to you, what feels right, and take a few steps towards the Future You who’s waiting for you.

As always….

Jan 17: Look Back, From Afar Pt 4

Jan 17: Look Back, From Afar Pt 4

All this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.


All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper. (Missed one? Find the past Doses here)

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Ready? Here we go with Part 4…

Jump forward, to January 17, 2020.

Where are you? What’s around you?

Think about Future You for a moment….

What does success look like? Make a list.

What are you most proud of from 2019?

What am I doing in my life right now that is allowing me to have a positive, transformative effect on others?

Explore these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for the final Part 5. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always….

Jan 16: Look Back, From Afar Pt 3

Jan 16: Look Back, From Afar Pt 3

All this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.


All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper. (Missed one? Find the past Doses here)

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Ready? Here we go with Part 3…

Jump forward, to January 16, 2020.

Where are you? What’s around you?

Think about Future You for a moment….

What does their life look like?

What have they achieved?

What do they do every day?

What don't they do every day?

Explore these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for Part 3. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always….

Jan 15: Look Back, From Afar Pt 2

Jan 15: Look Back, From Afar Pt 2

As we mentioned yesterday in the Daily Dose, this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.

What if, instead of focusing the Whats of our plans for 2019, we explored the who of the future.

All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper.

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

Ready? Here we go with Part 2…

Jump forward, to January 15, 2020.

Maybe you are sitting on your phone, on an early morning like that feels a bit this one …

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Think about Future You for a moment….

What aren't they afraid of?

What do they stand for?

What are they willing to sacrifice?

Explore these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for Part 3. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always….

Jan 14: Look Back, From Afar

Jan 14: Look Back, From Afar

There is alot of 2019 and New Year talk this time of year. Goals, resolutions, resets. But if we aren’t careful, the life we want can look alot like another long To Do list.

This week, we’re going to approach it a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.

What if, instead of planning the Whats of our plans for 2019, we explored the who of the future. Not the What. What do I mean by Who? Here's a quick suggestion on where your Who might be hiding...

All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper.

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

Ready? Here we go…

Jump forward, to January 14, 2020.

Maybe you are sitting on your phone, on an early morning like that feels a bit this one …

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Let's start to explore who that person is….

What is that person capable of?

What are they dedicating themselves to?

Fill in a list of all of the verbs, nouns, activities or qualities that come to mind when you say:

“I am ____________. I am someone who…..”

Start with these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for Part 2. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always…. (this AM, an old favorite that never feels old….)

Jan 11: If You Can't Be Here Now, Will You Ever Be Able To Be?

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Jan 11: If You Can't Be Here Now, Will You Ever Be Able To Be?

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If you're like most of us, you spend a lot of your time focused on the future even when it’s not the New Year season – thinking of where you want to go, what you need to do to get there and how fast you can make it happen.

It's the mindset of growth, development and innovation – and in a lot of ways, it's not a bad thing at all. It's the reason we grow, evolve and become better versions of ourselves.

It's what gives us purpose, aspirations and a reason to get out of bed at 4:30AM.

Hell, it's probably the reason you're here, right now, reading this.

But left unchecked, it also has a dark side.

In the pursuit of always wanting to get somewhere, we often forget where we actually are. The things happening around us and life as we are experiencing it – in this moment.

We get so blinded by where we want to go that we de-value where we are and the moments that are building towards our future.

We become so fixated on the end game that we forget to pay attention to the game we are in, right here, right now.

Rest assured – you lose nothing by making sure you spend time in this moment, focusing on where you are right now.

So, enjoy the work you're putting in today...
Enjoy the struggles you're enduring today...
Enjoy the investments in your future you're making today...

Even if they aren't exactly where you want to be – yet.

Know that all of them will add up to the future you want and you lose nothing by experiencing them, enjoying them and paying attention to them, today.

With an un-promised future, they are really all you got.

In the words of Alan Watts:

You can’t live at all, unless you can live fully now.
— Alan Watts

Take a watch. It's good.

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Jan 10: Take A Moment

Jan 10: Take A Moment

There has been alot of 2019 and New Year content lately, with a lot to digest, so rather than sending more your way today, we want you to just kick back and take a moment.

Take a moment to sit back and remind yourself why you're doing this, what you want from it, and spend a few moments figuring out what you need to do to make putting yourself first a regular and on-going part of your routine – whether that's morning, evening or night.

We got some tunes to help you along. Enjoy the morning.

Jan 9: Growth vs. Fixed Mindset

Jan 9: Growth vs. Fixed Mindset

As we all roll along with things, the accumulation of challenges over time can get heavy even though we have an accumulation of growth as well.

Anyone else noticing that? How some of the same challenges we face and overcome every day can paradoxically seem to get harder and harder to overcome? 

Why is that?! Shouldn't it get easier to face them over time?

If we're not paying attention, it's easy to start carrying a few of those challenges around with us, even after we overcome them in the moment

It starts to make us question the growth we're capable of. "I'm trying, maybe I'm just not cut out for this?"

I”'ve done six Damn Early Days, shouldn't this be easy by now?”

If we create a story about not wanting to get up in the mornings, even when we are still doing it anyway, we subtly start layering more and more of our limited f***s on top of the very thing we are trying to overcome.

Imagine every time we complain about waking up in the morning as a thin lead blanket you are laying down over top of your duvet. It won't be long before those layers of what it means to be tired in the morning become impossible to lift off, even with a solid amount of motivation.

How to let it all go? To get lighter again?

Pay attention to the thoughts you have about the parts you find challenging - are they focused on the reality you will actually experience in that moment (feeling the sensations of tiredness) or are they focused on a subtle mental story (being tired and struggling)

It will still probably come up - but let watch it and it go.

Shed those layers.

Get back to reality, the simple feelings and a make a choice. Choose growth. Choose the person you are becoming, and let go of the stories. It will get start to get easier and easier. 

Even though we are challenging ourselves, "the challenges" don't have to come with us. They can be addressed in the moment and left behind in our wake.

yOUR cHALLENGES dON'T dEFINE yOU.

Just the way an illness isn't who we are, we also aren't someone struggling to wake up in the mornings. We have struggle and challenging moments in our lives, always. But the simple choice to let it be there, see that challenge as merely a situation to be addressed, on our path to growth, repeated again and again, is the secret to coming out of day 21, day 42, day 365 or day 2100 significantly larger as a person, who is even lighter than when we started.

   

 
Let it be, and make sh*t happen.
— Beatles x Drake
 

Jan 8: Time to Do You

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Jan 8: Time to Do You

What would feel really good this morning?

Forget the 2019 goals, the Summits, the long game. Just think about right now. What would be a really great way to start your day, today?

While Damn Early Life often focuses on goals, making the changes you want in life, steps towards the things that matter to you, sometimes it's just as crucial that we remember that what also matters in life is doing things because they make us feel happy. No bigger reason than that. Some things just matter because they feel good.

So this morning, if you want to keep after it with your Summit goals and morning plans, do it. If that feels good for you today, go all in on that.

But, if you feel like shaking it up, today can be a no-guilt Treat-Yo-Self day to put your Summit on pause and do things differently.

Shaking things up now and then, making time for play, is pretty damn important in our books for a life well-lived.

If you agree, here's your chance. 

Feel like Netflix binging an entire movie before work today? Do it.

Feel like playing video games, having a long candle-lit bath, or making weekend brunch on a Tuesday all before 9 am? Do. It.

If you have a DED or DEL friend in the city where you live, text them and meet up for coffee and sunrise.

Do only what feels good this morning. Nothing less.

So. What do you want? Name it.

Today it's not about planning the rest of your life, it's about how you want to live this one morning. Right here, in the now.

Press play on Nina Simone, think about what would make this morning feel amazing. then get up and go.

 

  

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Jan 7: Your Year of F*ck Yes or No

Jan 7: Your Year of F*ck Yes or No

Estimated Reading Time: 8 minutes

How would it feel to look back on 2019 and feel like you spent it (mostly) doing what felt right, what aligned with what you care about, instead of pulled in all directions?

How good would that feel.

While this morning's article is technically filed as dating advice, the premise of it extends far beyond that.

In fact, in a world where we're exposed to more opportunity and choices than ever, it's one of the most relevant things I've come across.

If you're feeling over-committed or too scattered in life – it might just be the antidote you need.

To sum it up, basically, if you're not saying "Fuck Yes" about whatever it is you're doing, than simply say "no".

When deciding whether to do something, if you feel anything less than “all in” — then say “no”.

When you say no to most of the things in your life, you create room to throw yourself completely into the few things that get you stoked.

Imagine if this year was your year of F*ck Yes or No.

Every event you get invited to.

Every dinner party.

Every request to start a new project.

Every coffee you get asked to have...

If you’re not saying “fuck yes”, then this is your full permission to say "no".

We’re all busy, we’ve all taken on too much, and saying yes to less is the way out.

We feature this article in the 21 DED program and we keep coming back to it again and again because it’ just so good. This matters now more than ever,

Jan 4: Focus and Flow

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Jan 4: Focus and Flow

No focus, No flow.
— Christine Carter

Maybe you have felt it. That mental state, our “sweet spot,” when we are challenged and our skills are being put to full use and the world flows. When we are so focused on a project, a task that we enjoy that hours seem to fly by in no time. 

Have you felt it this past week with your first few Damn Early Days of 2019?

We know that mornings can be hard times to shut out the world and focus--especially if we had a late bedtime. But when well-rested, the silent hours of the morning when no one needs us can be powerful.

If you’ve had trouble getting into a flow these mornings, or even making the most of your morning time, here are a few tips to shift you mindset and set you up for your best chances to slip into your Flow as you ease into the new year.

When is the last time you lost time, working on a project you liked? 

  • Make a list of what it was, where, when. The details. That's your formula. 

How is your environment right now?

  • This makes a huge difference in our ability to focus. Take 5 and tidy your work space, then come back. Or do you create and work best in a coffee shop, around others? Write it out.

How is the sound in this space?

  • Do you get lost with music, or ambient sounds of your home or a coffee shop? Think about it. For some of us, some kinds of music help us zone out, for others, music is great for some tasks but is a subtle distraction, preventing us from ever fully focusing. Make note.

How is my mental space

  • Take 5 to clear your mental clutter from yesterday or what’s coming later in your day -- 5 minutes to brain dump, make a to-do list, whatever you need in order to empty it so you can hit pause on your planning mind, and so you feel no balls have been dropped. Leave it all on the paper.

Make a plan for the AM—more than routines

  • Knowing what you want to do next--especially in a big project or goal--helps your flow from one state with ease. Riding the wave from one step to the next.

What distracts you?

  • Name them, own them, and find simple solutions to shut them down. Turn it off. Take a minute to anticipate your needs and take care of them now

Prime your body

  • Grab a snack, and water. Concentration and focus actually take a lot of mental and physical effort, and blood sugar and water have been proven to help with mental clarity and boosting concentration.

Take a breath

  • Close your eyes and deep breathe for 1 minute -- settle your mind in order to it know it's time to let go of the day, focus nervous system and maximize blood flow in our brain

What tips or routine help you focus and get into your flow? Drop a message over on the Discord, or the DED Facebook Group. We want to keep learning from the community, and the many ways to flow. 

Got some chill vibes for your morning jam right here for ya, then turn this phone off and get flowing. 

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Jan 2: Resolving Isn't Gonna Cut It

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Jan 2: Resolving Isn't Gonna Cut It

So. Many. People. Make New Year’s resolutions then drop off in a few weeks.

Failure is so common, is it inevitable? Can it be changed?

You know the answer to that.

Here’s a few simple but deeply powerful step you can take starting today to ACTUALLY build momentum and succeed (in whatever way you define your success).

Read on, make note, and implement these tips.

Don’t simply resolve a resolution. Goals without plans are but dreams. Dreams without steps are but wishes.

Stop wishing, and help your own damn self to succeed.

If you’ve had a hard time with goals in the past, don’t stay stuck there.

Today is the second day of a new year, and another chance to write your own story.

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Jan 1: Kicking Off 2019 Right

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Jan 1: Kicking Off 2019 Right

Yesterday we encouraged you to intentionally plan out your New Year’s Morning, to craft this time to really start this year off with a bang in your own way.

Start off 2019 with a morning that feels like the kind of life you know you want.

Tomorrow we’ll explore a bit more about the goals you wrote about yesterday, but today is all about you focusing on you and what you know you want from this morning.

Here’s your morning jam to help get ya rolling…

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Dec 31: On the Eve of 2019...

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Dec 31: On the Eve of 2019...

How do you feel about New Year’s?

Excited, optimistic, a bit uneasy (how did another year pass already?!), or something else entirely?

Curious to know — are you someone who makes New Year’s resolutions?

Why or Why Not?

Think about your answer to that for a moment—no matter where you fall on the NY Resolution debate, ask yourself what that could show you about your outlook, mindset or attitude. No right or wrong answers here, just encouraging you to ask curiously.

No matter how much weight you put into January 1st, we want to challenge you today to use tomorrow as a starting point, to build, shift or take a leap of faith towards one or more goals and plans you want to experience and finally invest time into this upcoming year.

We’ll explore more about ideas about the new year tomorrow and through this week, but for today, what plans are going through you mind?

Take this quick read to get you started. It breaks down a few key tools to setting up the best goals that work for you, and makes a strong case that New Year’s Resolutions can help you — even if you fail at them.

So? What SMART goals could you commit to for 2019? What does your gut tell you would be a goal that would improve your life and help you go where you want to go? Make a list, break them down. Really flesh them out with some of the ideas from that article.

One Final Challenge:

Plan out tomorrow AM. Right now.

Whether you have to go to work on January 1st or not, look at tomorrow as the first morning of a new chapter, and that morning could be a powerful one if you spent it using your time in ways that really, actually matter to you. That make you feel like you are winning tomorrow AM. That make you feel good, and motivated to go at it again on January 2nd.

Don’t just sleep in. Make tomorrow morning really count.

We believe in you.

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Dec 28: Let's Reflect on 2018

Dec 28: Let's Reflect on 2018

As we roll into the last weekend of 2018, we want to take a moment and acknowledge what we all have collectively done these last two weeks.

Over your time in DED and DEL programs, you dove into something that most are unwilling to.

You put what matters to you before the world had a chance to take that space away.

More than that though, you played a part in building a community spanning over 10 countries and almost every time zone. That means at almost any time of the day, someone around the world is getting up to get after it.

That's powerful and we want to thank you for your willingness to embrace that side of life.

We think that's pretty damn cool.

 

Before We Look Ahead at 2019

Before looking at what's ahead, it’s worth taking time to sit back and reflect on what has happened. Because you can’t clearly see where you are going if you don’t fully understand where you have been.

Most of us have a fear of slowing down – unwilling to stop long enough to let what we’re doing catch-up to us. Maybe this is because we don’t want to confront how we spend our time or maybe it’s because we feel like we’ll lose momentum, but if there’s anything history has taught us, it’s that slowing down to reflect only helps us move faster, further, and more purposely.

With that, we have a single request from you this morning – take some time to reflect on what these last two weeks have been for you.

It will not only make a difference in your clarity about this year, but if you incorporate reflection into your life, it will have a huge impact on where you end up.

To get you started, we got some simple questions...

 

Questions Worth Thinking About

Keep in mind these are just a guideline to get you started. Your reflection is an exercise in asking the questions you care about.

About Damn Early Days:

Ask yourself:

  • What have you gained from waking up early?

  • What are your biggest struggles so far?

  • What positive stories have you been telling yourself throughout?

  • What self-defeating stories have you been telling yourself throughout?

  • Do you feel you're getting closer to what you want?

  • What differences do you notice in your life, routine, and mood before and during 21 Damn Early Days?

The Big Picture:

Ask yourself:

  • What has been challenging for me this year?

  • What are some of my best memories?

  • What do I wish I had done more of?

  • Less of?

  • What was unexpected this year?

  • How am I different than I was this time last year?

  • How am I the same?

  • If I told my friend a bit of life wisdom from this past year, what would I say?

And of course...

Dec 27: Start With Who

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Dec 27: Start With Who


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As we head into the weekend, somehow New Year’s Eve is creeping up like it always does. Maybe you have given some thought to the new year, maybe you are still coming out of holiday sugar coma, but today we wanted to offer you a few thoughts to explore this AM.

What if, instead of planning the Whats of our plans for 2019, we explored the who of the future, not the what. why, we have a quick suggestion on where it might be hiding.

All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your future self.

To do it, ask yourself the following questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper:

  • Who do you want to be in 2019?

  • What is that person capable of?

  • What are they dedicating themselves to?

  • What aren't they afraid of?

  • What do they stand for?

  • What are they willing to sacrifice?

  • How are they helping other people around them?

  • What are they willing to let go of?

  • What does their life look like?

  • What have they achieved?

  • What do they do every day?

  • What don't they do every day?

Those questions will give you a vivid image of the kind of person you want to be. And once you connect with that, you'll likely get a flood of excitement, staring into the eyes of this person you're going to become.

That'll do two things:

  1. It will make understanding your Why easier - The Why behind your list of Whats. Explore your Who, and you'll see the patterns, feel the purpose behind it all, and almost be able to touch why you want to be that person.

  2. It will give you a tangible sense of your standards and who you are striving to become. Carry that around with you in all situations. It is your guard rails.

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Check this acceptance speech by Mathew McConaughey. His "Who" is a version of himself 10 years into the future that he is always chasing. He doesn't say what his Why is, but you get the sense that he has a good handle on it and holds it close.

For an actor who could have easily have let himself be boxed into a certain type of role, he's pushed boundaries and kept growing, reaching the peak of his profession – always chasing what he knows he is capable of.

100+ million views? It's got some gold.    

 
 

Who are you 10 years from now, 1 year from now, 1 month from now?

Get to know that person you're chasing and you'll start to see why they are doing what they're doing.

#MakeItCount.    

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Dec 26: Just Be

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Dec 26: Just Be

Today, no fancy Daily Dose.

Nada.

Zip.

Because during the holidays pressures can run high, and it’s more important than ever to make time for space, for pausing, for slowing down. We’ll get into planning and taking steps towards the New Year soon enough.

So today, let’s just be.

Ask yourself what you need, what the next step is this AM.

What you don’t need is more ideas, information, and other people’s words telling you how to think or what to do. (I realize the irony as I type these very words. ha! )

So, turn inside right now, listen, and go after what you know to be true this AM

See how that feels.

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On The Final Day of Christmas...🎅🏼

On The Final Day of Christmas...🎅🏼

On the final day of Christmas, Damn Early Days gave to me
a chance to commit to something.

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You have 9 days left in 2018 and once it's over, it's all about looking forward to 2019

That's how most people look at it anyway.

But that's not you. You have a choice. You can already be looking ahead with bright eyes and ideas flowing, thinking about what matters and what you want to accomplish.

As we wrap up Damn Early Life 2018, we want to give you a chance to commit to something that you know future you will be proud of accomplishing next year.

The catch? You have to commit to doing it by 11:59PM on March 31st, 2019

Yep, commit to something you'll do in the first three months of the year and we'll hold you accountable.

We’ll be following up with you to see how you are doing on this goal for yourself. We’ll help keep you committed to yourself.

Make sure it's something that actually matters to you. Use it as something that will move you forward. The bolder the better.

Now there may be a voice in your head that talks you out of committing to something right here, right now, but just remember that you can't BS yourself on your deathbed. You got dreams inside of you and you're only fooling yourself if you don't bring them out.

COMMIT TO SOMETHING. Right now.

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And as a bonus, because it’s Christmas and all, we have found for you a little Chrismassy gem. If you were a fan of the Muppets. Sesame Street or Fraggle Rock in the 1980s, this Christmas special has it all. Everyone is here. It’s the uncut version with the deleted scenes not available on DVD, just missing a few seconds at the start. Enjoy!

On The Eleventh Day of Christmas...🎅🏼

On The Eleventh Day of Christmas...🎅🏼

On the eleventh day of Christmas, Damn Early Life gave to me...
a reminder to always be a first-rate version of yourself instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

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This morning we're dropping a simple reminder that no matter how closely you follow someone you highly respect, you’ll never be able to become them.

Even if you spend hours and hours every day practicing the skill they’ve perfected, you’re still under someone’s shadow.

Why? Because they are not you and you are not them. They have different strengths, different ideas, and different ways of looking at the world – and so do you.

If you build your life by only following others, no matter how great, there is nothing new that you will be sharing with the world. All you really are is a shadow version of the person you're trying to emulate.

Instead, if you want people to recognize you, whether you're an artist, a business owner, a lawyer, a teacher, or a scientist, you’ll need to pinpoint what your strengths are (as opposed to just the strengths others hold), how you look at the world and learn to play to them.

By all means, you can learn from and take things that others do well, but at the end of the day, it's only when you own who you are that you can truly become the best version of you.