Jan 31st: What's Burning Inside?

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Jan 31st: What's Burning Inside?

The truth is most people go to their grave living a life far below their potential. With their wishes and dreams buried deep inside of them, almost extinguished from decades of being ignored.

They cover the fire that was once burning inside them with the bullsh*t the world wants to sell us. Cheap thrills, addictive apps, and substance-less products.

We become convinced that the job is more important than our dreams and that security is more necessary to us than the very adventures that make us feel alive.

But they got it all wrong.

The truth is, what we need more than anything is to live a life aligned with who we are.

If that's painting, then go paint.

If that’s exploring, then go explore.

If it’s building companies, traveling, love, or being a partner, then go do that.

It doesn't matter what they are, just please just don't ignore your dreams.

Play with them, explore them, let them burn inside you.

No, you may not be able to make a "career" out of them. You might not be able to even make a penny from them, but please, don't ignore them all together.

Wake up insanely early, work on them under the moonlight, or sneak some time in between your kid's soccer game.

We don't care what you do, but just that you do it. Please, don't give up on them all together.

If you're down to keep fueling those dreams inside you, and grow the life you have been carving out for yourself so far this year, we are going all in to keep this going with you for March.

As you may have heard on Discord, we are pausing regular programs like DEL in February to focus on the design of tech for our programs. Instead of DEL, we have stopped your DEL payments and created a simple version of ongoing monthly DED that you can join to keep going with your momentum and daily check ins. It’s a simpler version prime for giving you space each day, and at a pay what you want price point. Check your email, Jessa will have all the details for ya and you can sign up or stop subscriptions for it any time.

And of course ….


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Jan 30: When We Listen

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Jan 30: When We Listen

This AM, you’ve got full permission to slow down.

To stop pushing, striving, hustling towards goals and getting sh*t done, and to spend a few minutes listening to what’s going on inside. To make space for your raw self to surface. The person who brought you here. The person who will take you where you actually want to go.  

While we share our favorite ideas and videos here with you about goals, habits, and strategies for building momentum on the things that matter to you, we also know that we don't have all the answers. We are all just figuring this out as we go. But one thing we do know: this journey of creating the life you want is also a deepening of the relationship with the one person who will be there for you your entire life—that raw You.

Sometimes the noise and ‘have tos’ of life roar so loudly that we can’t hear what’s inside, and so hitting the pause button and shutting out the world is essential now and then. And the more often we slow down and make space to reflect and grow in our self-awareness, we begin to realize what was there all along. 

For many of us January hasn’t been easy. Some mornings we not easy to get out of bed, to get going, or to work on goals we had set out at the beginning of the month. But the sun is rising earlier for most of us (at last), and no matter what struggles you are going through this month, or may be facing down the road, hitting pause and checking in with your raw self may be exactly what you sometimes need to do. When you listen, you realize simple but powerful truths about who you are and what you, your body, and your raw real self are capable of.

And you know what you may learn?

You Got This.

You’ve been doing it, handling it, figuring it out every. Single. Day of your life since you took your first breath. And you will keep doing it, even if you don’t think you can some days, every moment of every day for as long as you have left. 

You, your raw self, in this body that carries you through has been figuring sh*t out for decades. In your first few years you figured out language. You figured out how to survive (or thrive) through elementary school, through the trials of high school, through jobs you loved and hated, and maybe more school. Through good relationships and hard ones, through pain and incredible joy, and maybe loss too. 

Every time you were convinced you couldn’t go on, you did anyway.   

No matter what life has thrown at you, even if it was hard, uncertain, and you suffered or are maybe struggling now, you still made it through. Sometimes on your own, sometimes with the love and help of others, you made it through. 

Look up from the screen and think about that for a moment. What have you overcome?

You made it all the way through until today, sitting here, right now. You and your raw self have a track record of decades of resilience that is stronger and deeper than you realize.

But all too often we get caught up in believing the stories and limitations we tell ourselves, our uncertainties, our exhaustion, our stress. We are not sure how we will manage, not even sure we CAN manage. Yet, even with all of that self-doubt, we still get through it. And even if we don’t know how we will get through, our raw self keeps going, our body keeps going, we figure it out with one step and then another. And we will continue to do so every day of our lives. No matter our self-talk, we actually never stop figuring sh*t out. Ever.

Realizing that in fact you truly can get through anything, that you can figure anything out, because you already HAVE made it through every hurdle in your life so far, that's big. You got this. It’s a simple but powerful truth. And it’s one we often can’t hear in the noise of everyday life.

So hit pause for a few minutes this morning.

Now, get lost in the waves of this piece from Sleeping at Last, and spend a few minutes with that You deep down. That You who keeps burning, keeps going even when you don’t think you can. The You who has been quietly showing up for yourself every day of your life so far. Spend some time together this morning, Don’t stop here. Go out into the day and see how it feels.

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Jan 29: Life In Perspective

Jan 29: Life In Perspective

Here we are go, one more early morning. Waking up, and focusing on what we want to get done this morning.

It can be hard to remember to look at the big picture—I mean the REALLY big picture— and remind ourselves of the value of a single day, of this week, or even this month within the larger context of your life.

So before you get going with your day, let’s take a moment to remind ourselves of the bigger picture — with a bit of help courtesy of our friend Tim Urban at Wait But Why.

We share this during past cycles of Damn Early Days because, in all honesty, it is still one the of the most powerful reminders we have seen.

No lie, we look at it ourselves at least once a month and it still feels like a wake up call, every damn time.

So, we like to use it as a monthly reminder for all of us in the DED team as well. The message, the reminder it gives us, its at the crux of why we started Damn Early Days in the first place.

So here's a wake up call for you this morning. Here is your entire life in months, assuming you live until 90.

Yep, that's all you get.

And considering for most of us at least 25% is already behind us, you can knock off the first 7 or 8 rows. The rest is what you have to spend as you please.

Looking at it that way, it's simple (and powerful) to understand why how you spend your time matters so much. It puts into perspective what is and isn't important.

Think about it:

  • If you drink a good cup of coffee each morning, that's just 20,000 "first cups" left. Enjoy.

  • If you get 4 good hugs a week, that's just 12,500 good hugs left in your life.

  • If you see your parents once every three months and they live for another 40 years, that’s just 120 more times you'll see them.

  • If you go on two good vacations each year, that means you have no more than 120 vacations left in your life.

  • If you see an old friend once a year, that's just ~60 more times you will see them in your life.

  • If you go on a rad road trip once every 3 years, that's just ~20 left in life.

You get the point...

How you spend your time in the days and weeks matters, because they add up to months, months add up to years, and those years are all you get.

It's quick, it's simple, and it's one of the most important things you can understand.

This mornings post will help you do that. Take a dive in, it's one of the best we've ever read.

And of course, your morning jam...

Jan 28: Monday Reset

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Jan 28: Monday Reset

New week, new chance to keep building on the good from last week, or to completely reset and make this week even better.

Which is the best approach for you right now?


To help give you some clarity about this week, this month, and where you want to go, here’s one way to think about it —

imagine having a conversation with your future self, 5 years from now.

Who is the person they want you to be?

What kinds of things would they want you to have done? Shown up for? Or overcome?


I ask myself those questions often. Especially whenever I’m feeling stuck, confused, or when I just can’t see my next steps. I don’t always have answers, but more often than not, it shines light on where I should go, who I want to become, and what actually matters to me. Hope it helps.

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Jan 25: Thanking You

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Jan 25: Thanking You

A good friend of mind once said “It’s really easy to say what you’re not. It’s hard to say what you are.” ... Anybody can talk about why something’s bad. Try doing something good.
— Joseph Gordon-Levitt

When's the last time you thanked yourself for showing up for you? 

If you are drawing a blank on this one, you are not alone.

Do you find it easier to thank others than yourself?

From a young age many of us are taught to thank others often, but it's not as ingrained in us to show gratitude for ourselves. This morning, let's try to overcome that.

Stretching outside our comfort zones (especially the comfort zone of a warm bed before dawn) is not easy, and it's something many people would never dream of doing.

But you did.

Dreaming bigger, actively re-evaluating things, and taking steps to move beyond a life of obligations in order to intentionally create this life is not something everyone can or wants to do. 

But you did it.

You did it with us before.

And this month, you came back to do it again.

That says alot about who you are, and who you want to be.

So let's savour that.

Pause, look away from this screen and think of 3 things you are good at.

Write them down. On paper, in your phone, we don't care. But make them real. Thoughts are useless unless we act on them. 

Now, list 3 things you want to thank yourself for.

When have you shown up recently, what have you appreciated about yourself this month so far? Maybe it was during an early morning, maybe at work. But you appreciated yourself and your efforts in those moments. Write down three of these, 

In the Western world we are constantly taught that we are not enough, and that we need to consume, purchase, or find solutions to fix our faults and our problems. Our capitalist, consumerist society relies on this mindset of inadequacy in order to keep the economy moving. 

As we work towards goals, summits, and changes we want in our lives this month it's easy to feel that we are not good enough, dwell on how inadequate we feel in certain areas, or believe we are not succeeding in the ways we imagined success would be.

Too often we forget to celebrate our strengths and show gratitude to ourselves-- the one who is getting up and getting after it (or at least trying to) every day.

So this morning, appreciate those three strengths about yourself. Remember those three times you appreciated yourself. Thank yourself for choosing to make time for you this month, for gliding through the easy mornings and for pulling yourself through the hard mornings.

 

Future You thanks you, and sends their love.

  

 

  

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Jan 24: Check Your Limits

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Jan 24: Check Your Limits

You cannot do anything great without aggressively courting your own limits.
— Aisha Tyler

This morning, pause and ask yourself--am I challenging myself, or am I in a comfort zone during these early mornings? Am I asking myself to stretch and grow where it matters, or am I playing it safe?

With less than 2 weeks left this month, it's important to pause, look and see where our limits currently are. Adjust things, push a little more to see if you can, see how that feels. 

If things are feeling good but still challenging, and you are making progress and growing where it matters to you, awesome! Keep on that path. 

If you realize you are no longer courting your limits and growing where you want to, maybe things feel routine or momentum has dragged, ask yourself a few of these Qs:

How do I want to feel by the end of this month?

What do I really want more of in my life?

Ok sure, but what do I REALLY want?

Where can I raise my standards for myself a bit more, have I been letting some things slide a little too long?

Add something new to the mix this morning, make a plan for tomorrow, and reset. 

Every morning is another opportunity to take steps towards the life that feels right for us. Don't let a single morning go by while playing it safe.

Make today's sunrise count, even in the smallest of ways. 

As the sun rises, here's your morning jam....

 

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Jan 23: What Do You Need?

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Jan 23: What Do You Need?

When it comes to friends, lovers and family, we are used to reaching out and asking them---

"What do you need?"

"How can I help you right now?"

But how often to we ask ourselves those simple but essential questions?

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That's what I thought.

Ask yourself--why is this

Why don't we have the habit of asking ourselves "what do I need" as often as we do for others?

Why ignore this in ourselves, or avoid the answers? 

There can be a misconception that talking about our needs is 'admitting' we don't have it all together, that we aren't ok.

But in fact, needs aren't about lack. It's the same way that a plant needing water and sun to grow isn't a weakness, or a lack. It's essential to it's chance to thrive, to its very survival. So too are our needs. 

So today, your challenge is to sit for a minute and ask yourself:

What do I need this morning?

Let a few answers bubble up, without judgement. Sit with those thoughts and feelings -- needs can feel vulnerable to face at first. 

Only when we accept 'this is where I'm at this morning, this is what I need', can we take real steps to meet those needs. Otherwise, it's all too easy to let old habits creep in that mask things. and distract us from what is actually going on inside.

So, what do you need?

If it helps, list it out on a paper or in your notebook.

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I'll wait.

Now, choose the most pressing one, or a few smaller ones. Write one thing you can do this morning to meet that need.

Then: Take Action. Do that one thing.

Feeling exhausted mentally, and just need empty, quiet space? 

  • Embrace empty, guilt-free space this morning.

  • Meditate

  • Take a hot bath and soak in that peaceful silence

  • Go for a walk with your coffee --in a real mug. I'm serious, try it.

  • Sit and write

  • Watch the sky come alive as the sun rises outside your window

Feeling stressed in your space?

  • Tidy your bedroom. Make it the most zen it's been in a long time. Put those clothes where they belong. Make your bed. ...Whoa, is this a boutique hotel? No, it's just your room, but better.

  • Finally clear and sort those papers and stacks that have been piling up in other rooms.

  • Set a timer and see what a difference 10 min of tidying can do. If it felt good, do another 10 min.

Feeling lonely?

  • Reach out to a friend or coworker and make plans, send them a message.

  • Look up and join a few new events and groups where you can meet others who want to connect like you do. Try sites like www.meetup.com

  • Call an old friend or family member who makes you feel good whenever you catch up.

Feeling stagnant, restless in life?

  • Move. Gym, Yoga, dance in your kitchen while you make you coffee, just move.

  • Try a podcast this am. Try This American Life

  • Find a few library or audio books online that you want to read, and get them. Need a good book to try? Ask the DED Facebook group or our exclusive DEL Discord group for recommendations.

  • Watch a Ted Talk, or a documentary online. Ask the DED/DEL community for their faves.

  • Reflect and write a plan about where you want to go/grow.

  • Feed your mind

The key is to make this simple question a daily habit --

checking in with ourselves, how we are doing, and getting good at knowing and giving ourselves what we need. A little every day. 

See what it feels like to do that more, and put your own oxygen masks on before helping others. I'm willing to bet that before long, you will have so much more of yourself to bring into the rest of your life.

While you think about what you need, and plan one thing to do this morning, press play below on your morning jam .....  

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Jan 22 - What Does Your Dream Look Like?

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Jan 22 - What Does Your Dream Look Like?

We are in the second half of the month (crazy right?), and you’re here, reading this today. It’s been cool to see this group of Damn Early Life ebb and flow over the past couple months, each of us working towards our own ideas and plans. That doesn't mean we are all crushing it every morning, and for some of us there are days that didn't happen at all, but it's not about perfection. Overall we see the momentum this group is building individually and as a whole, and it is super cool to see.

But whether or not we are crushing it every morning or struggling, we all have reasons why we signed up. At this halfway point of January, it's time to refocus. Not just on the bigger ideas for 2019, but for this month, right now.

Whether the first half of the month was easy for you or a real struggle, there's so much that still lies ahead.

So first, I want you to pull out a piece of paper and a pen.

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Go on, I'll wait.

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Got it? Now, write out the Summit you planned for yourself when you started this month or DEL (which ever is relevant for you).

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Next, what is the bigger dream that this Summit is leading to?

If you don't know for sure, just try. Try to put into words the bigger desire you want that inspired your Summit.

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Once that is written out, read it over. Does it feel true? Anything you want to change?

Now, with all this in mind, hit play on this short video featuring American author and motivational speaker Eric Thomas. He's loud, he's tough, but his words are a no BS reminder about getting serious about your life and what you want. It's worth it. 

Rise and Grind. 

Let's Do This.

 

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Jan 21: Habits Holding You Back?

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Jan 21: Habits Holding You Back?

Becoming who we want to be, reaching goals, creating the life we want---all of this requires change and growth, one day at a time. It means building new habits, and taking steps to learn more. 

As you move ahead working on new habits however, it's essential to take stock of the ones already in your mind. Some habits like brushing your teeth or drinking water ar 100% helpful for you now and into the future, while other habits...not so much.

Those are the habits worth questioning today.

The little habits you do, day in and day out, without thinking about it, but that don't really add anything positive to your goals. From checking email and social media 50x a day, to falling back into the same mindsets when we hit a wall or something doesn't go according to our plan, to worrying, or when we find ourselves repeating the same mistakes or habits with friends or lovers....the list goes on. And on.

This morning— think of 3 habits you know you do that may actually be holding you back

From being who you want to be. And going where you want to go.

Be honest, but be compassionate with yourself.

This is not about judgement, it's about noticing and owning the habits that have gone unchecked for awhile but, when we stop to think about it, are not helping us anymore. 

In the way we can train our body's strength, with better habits, we can build our mental strength. 

Amy Morin is an American psychotherapist and international best selling author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do". She explores mental strength and the power of habits in our lives. She has found that even a few bad habits can in fact derail our ability to work towards our best potential. 

As you take inventory of your own habits, ask yourself:

Which habits are holding me back?

Then read Amy's short 3 minute article, maybe you have read it before, she offers 13 powerful habits you can start doing today...

 

 

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Jan 18: Look Back, From Afar Pt 5

Jan 18: Look Back, From Afar Pt 5

All this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.


All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper. (Missed one? Find the past Doses here)

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Ready? Here we go with Part 5…

Jump forward, to January 17, 2020.

Say hi to Future You for a moment….

Then write what comes to mind when you say “ I am…”

It could be how you feel, what you are doing, what matters to you….

Simply put, the shift from ‘To Do’ lists to “I am” can help us to think about who we want to be and the life we want for our Future Self in a way where we really own it, and embody it. Life isn’t about to do lists and goal lists, it’s about being, living, feeling, and owning your story and experience in this life.

I am

I am

I am

Explore these today, write out your response, and then get rolling on your morning. Make it a priority to start today focusing on what matters to you, what feels right, and take a few steps towards the Future You who’s waiting for you.

As always….

Jan 17: Look Back, From Afar Pt 4

Jan 17: Look Back, From Afar Pt 4

All this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.


All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper. (Missed one? Find the past Doses here)

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Ready? Here we go with Part 4…

Jump forward, to January 17, 2020.

Where are you? What’s around you?

Think about Future You for a moment….

What does success look like? Make a list.

What are you most proud of from 2019?

What am I doing in my life right now that is allowing me to have a positive, transformative effect on others?

Explore these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for the final Part 5. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always….

Jan 16: Look Back, From Afar Pt 3

Jan 16: Look Back, From Afar Pt 3

All this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.


All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper. (Missed one? Find the past Doses here)

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Ready? Here we go with Part 3…

Jump forward, to January 16, 2020.

Where are you? What’s around you?

Think about Future You for a moment….

What does their life look like?

What have they achieved?

What do they do every day?

What don't they do every day?

Explore these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for Part 3. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always….

Jan 15: Look Back, From Afar Pt 2

Jan 15: Look Back, From Afar Pt 2

As we mentioned yesterday in the Daily Dose, this week, we’re going to approach 2019 plans a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.

What if, instead of focusing the Whats of our plans for 2019, we explored the who of the future.

All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper.

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

Ready? Here we go with Part 2…

Jump forward, to January 15, 2020.

Maybe you are sitting on your phone, on an early morning like that feels a bit this one …

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Think about Future You for a moment….

What aren't they afraid of?

What do they stand for?

What are they willing to sacrifice?

Explore these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for Part 3. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always….

Jan 14: Look Back, From Afar

Jan 14: Look Back, From Afar

There is alot of 2019 and New Year talk this time of year. Goals, resolutions, resets. But if we aren’t careful, the life we want can look alot like another long To Do list.

This week, we’re going to approach it a bit differently. Move past the To Dos, the lists, the goals.

What if, instead of planning the Whats of our plans for 2019, we explored the who of the future. Not the What. What do I mean by Who? Here's a quick suggestion on where your Who might be hiding...

All you have to do is look at someone you likely understand better than you think: your Future Self.

This week, we’re going to jump ahead, spend a few with Future You, and look back. Each morning this week, we’ll dive a little deeper.

** Ask yourself these questions and answer truthfully. These are powerful questions, and worth exploring with pen and paper. It will take 10 minutes, but trust us---we've done this, and its worth it. 

Ready? Here we go…

Jump forward, to January 14, 2020.

Maybe you are sitting on your phone, on an early morning like that feels a bit this one …

How do you want to look back on 2019, this time next year? 
Who do you want to be in 2019?

Let's start to explore who that person is….

What is that person capable of?

What are they dedicating themselves to?

Fill in a list of all of the verbs, nouns, activities or qualities that come to mind when you say:

“I am ____________. I am someone who…..”

Start with these today, write out your response, and come back tomorrow for Part 2. Questions like these are a powerful way to gain clarity on a year you are stoked to live.

As always…. (this AM, an old favorite that never feels old….)

Jan 11: If You Can't Be Here Now, Will You Ever Be Able To Be?

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Jan 11: If You Can't Be Here Now, Will You Ever Be Able To Be?

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If you're like most of us, you spend a lot of your time focused on the future even when it’s not the New Year season – thinking of where you want to go, what you need to do to get there and how fast you can make it happen.

It's the mindset of growth, development and innovation – and in a lot of ways, it's not a bad thing at all. It's the reason we grow, evolve and become better versions of ourselves.

It's what gives us purpose, aspirations and a reason to get out of bed at 4:30AM.

Hell, it's probably the reason you're here, right now, reading this.

But left unchecked, it also has a dark side.

In the pursuit of always wanting to get somewhere, we often forget where we actually are. The things happening around us and life as we are experiencing it – in this moment.

We get so blinded by where we want to go that we de-value where we are and the moments that are building towards our future.

We become so fixated on the end game that we forget to pay attention to the game we are in, right here, right now.

Rest assured – you lose nothing by making sure you spend time in this moment, focusing on where you are right now.

So, enjoy the work you're putting in today...
Enjoy the struggles you're enduring today...
Enjoy the investments in your future you're making today...

Even if they aren't exactly where you want to be – yet.

Know that all of them will add up to the future you want and you lose nothing by experiencing them, enjoying them and paying attention to them, today.

With an un-promised future, they are really all you got.

In the words of Alan Watts:

You can’t live at all, unless you can live fully now.
— Alan Watts

Take a watch. It's good.

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Jan 10: Take A Moment

Jan 10: Take A Moment

There has been alot of 2019 and New Year content lately, with a lot to digest, so rather than sending more your way today, we want you to just kick back and take a moment.

Take a moment to sit back and remind yourself why you're doing this, what you want from it, and spend a few moments figuring out what you need to do to make putting yourself first a regular and on-going part of your routine – whether that's morning, evening or night.

We got some tunes to help you along. Enjoy the morning.

Jan 9: Growth vs. Fixed Mindset

Jan 9: Growth vs. Fixed Mindset

As we all roll along with things, the accumulation of challenges over time can get heavy even though we have an accumulation of growth as well.

Anyone else noticing that? How some of the same challenges we face and overcome every day can paradoxically seem to get harder and harder to overcome? 

Why is that?! Shouldn't it get easier to face them over time?

If we're not paying attention, it's easy to start carrying a few of those challenges around with us, even after we overcome them in the moment

It starts to make us question the growth we're capable of. "I'm trying, maybe I'm just not cut out for this?"

I”'ve done six Damn Early Days, shouldn't this be easy by now?”

If we create a story about not wanting to get up in the mornings, even when we are still doing it anyway, we subtly start layering more and more of our limited f***s on top of the very thing we are trying to overcome.

Imagine every time we complain about waking up in the morning as a thin lead blanket you are laying down over top of your duvet. It won't be long before those layers of what it means to be tired in the morning become impossible to lift off, even with a solid amount of motivation.

How to let it all go? To get lighter again?

Pay attention to the thoughts you have about the parts you find challenging - are they focused on the reality you will actually experience in that moment (feeling the sensations of tiredness) or are they focused on a subtle mental story (being tired and struggling)

It will still probably come up - but let watch it and it go.

Shed those layers.

Get back to reality, the simple feelings and a make a choice. Choose growth. Choose the person you are becoming, and let go of the stories. It will get start to get easier and easier. 

Even though we are challenging ourselves, "the challenges" don't have to come with us. They can be addressed in the moment and left behind in our wake.

yOUR cHALLENGES dON'T dEFINE yOU.

Just the way an illness isn't who we are, we also aren't someone struggling to wake up in the mornings. We have struggle and challenging moments in our lives, always. But the simple choice to let it be there, see that challenge as merely a situation to be addressed, on our path to growth, repeated again and again, is the secret to coming out of day 21, day 42, day 365 or day 2100 significantly larger as a person, who is even lighter than when we started.

   

 
Let it be, and make sh*t happen.
— Beatles x Drake
 

Jan 8: Time to Do You

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Jan 8: Time to Do You

What would feel really good this morning?

Forget the 2019 goals, the Summits, the long game. Just think about right now. What would be a really great way to start your day, today?

While Damn Early Life often focuses on goals, making the changes you want in life, steps towards the things that matter to you, sometimes it's just as crucial that we remember that what also matters in life is doing things because they make us feel happy. No bigger reason than that. Some things just matter because they feel good.

So this morning, if you want to keep after it with your Summit goals and morning plans, do it. If that feels good for you today, go all in on that.

But, if you feel like shaking it up, today can be a no-guilt Treat-Yo-Self day to put your Summit on pause and do things differently.

Shaking things up now and then, making time for play, is pretty damn important in our books for a life well-lived.

If you agree, here's your chance. 

Feel like Netflix binging an entire movie before work today? Do it.

Feel like playing video games, having a long candle-lit bath, or making weekend brunch on a Tuesday all before 9 am? Do. It.

If you have a DED or DEL friend in the city where you live, text them and meet up for coffee and sunrise.

Do only what feels good this morning. Nothing less.

So. What do you want? Name it.

Today it's not about planning the rest of your life, it's about how you want to live this one morning. Right here, in the now.

Press play on Nina Simone, think about what would make this morning feel amazing. then get up and go.

 

  

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Jan 7: Your Year of F*ck Yes or No

Jan 7: Your Year of F*ck Yes or No

Estimated Reading Time: 8 minutes

How would it feel to look back on 2019 and feel like you spent it (mostly) doing what felt right, what aligned with what you care about, instead of pulled in all directions?

How good would that feel.

While this morning's article is technically filed as dating advice, the premise of it extends far beyond that.

In fact, in a world where we're exposed to more opportunity and choices than ever, it's one of the most relevant things I've come across.

If you're feeling over-committed or too scattered in life – it might just be the antidote you need.

To sum it up, basically, if you're not saying "Fuck Yes" about whatever it is you're doing, than simply say "no".

When deciding whether to do something, if you feel anything less than “all in” — then say “no”.

When you say no to most of the things in your life, you create room to throw yourself completely into the few things that get you stoked.

Imagine if this year was your year of F*ck Yes or No.

Every event you get invited to.

Every dinner party.

Every request to start a new project.

Every coffee you get asked to have...

If you’re not saying “fuck yes”, then this is your full permission to say "no".

We’re all busy, we’ve all taken on too much, and saying yes to less is the way out.

We feature this article in the 21 DED program and we keep coming back to it again and again because it’ just so good. This matters now more than ever,

Jan 4: Focus and Flow

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Jan 4: Focus and Flow

No focus, No flow.
— Christine Carter

Maybe you have felt it. That mental state, our “sweet spot,” when we are challenged and our skills are being put to full use and the world flows. When we are so focused on a project, a task that we enjoy that hours seem to fly by in no time. 

Have you felt it this past week with your first few Damn Early Days of 2019?

We know that mornings can be hard times to shut out the world and focus--especially if we had a late bedtime. But when well-rested, the silent hours of the morning when no one needs us can be powerful.

If you’ve had trouble getting into a flow these mornings, or even making the most of your morning time, here are a few tips to shift you mindset and set you up for your best chances to slip into your Flow as you ease into the new year.

When is the last time you lost time, working on a project you liked? 

  • Make a list of what it was, where, when. The details. That's your formula. 

How is your environment right now?

  • This makes a huge difference in our ability to focus. Take 5 and tidy your work space, then come back. Or do you create and work best in a coffee shop, around others? Write it out.

How is the sound in this space?

  • Do you get lost with music, or ambient sounds of your home or a coffee shop? Think about it. For some of us, some kinds of music help us zone out, for others, music is great for some tasks but is a subtle distraction, preventing us from ever fully focusing. Make note.

How is my mental space

  • Take 5 to clear your mental clutter from yesterday or what’s coming later in your day -- 5 minutes to brain dump, make a to-do list, whatever you need in order to empty it so you can hit pause on your planning mind, and so you feel no balls have been dropped. Leave it all on the paper.

Make a plan for the AM—more than routines

  • Knowing what you want to do next--especially in a big project or goal--helps your flow from one state with ease. Riding the wave from one step to the next.

What distracts you?

  • Name them, own them, and find simple solutions to shut them down. Turn it off. Take a minute to anticipate your needs and take care of them now

Prime your body

  • Grab a snack, and water. Concentration and focus actually take a lot of mental and physical effort, and blood sugar and water have been proven to help with mental clarity and boosting concentration.

Take a breath

  • Close your eyes and deep breathe for 1 minute -- settle your mind in order to it know it's time to let go of the day, focus nervous system and maximize blood flow in our brain

What tips or routine help you focus and get into your flow? Drop a message over on the Discord, or the DED Facebook Group. We want to keep learning from the community, and the many ways to flow. 

Got some chill vibes for your morning jam right here for ya, then turn this phone off and get flowing. 

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