Day 22: Welcome to Day 22

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Day 22: Welcome to Day 22

The truth is most people go to their grave living a life far below their potential. With their wishes and dreams buried deep inside of them, almost extinguished from decades of being ignored.

They cover the fire that was once burning inside them with the bullsh*t the world wants to sell us. Cheap thrills, addictive apps, and substance-less products.

We become convinced that the job is more important than our dreams and that security is more necessary to us than the very adventures that make us feel alive.

But they got it all wrong.

The truth is, what we need more than anything is to live a life aligned with who we are.

If that's painting, then go paint.

If that’s exploring, then go explore.

If it’s building companies, traveling, love, or being a partner, then go do that.

It doesn't matter what they are, just please just don't ignore your dreams.

Play with them, explore them, let them burn inside you.

No, you may not be able to make a "career" out of them. You might not be able to even make a penny from them, but please, don't ignore them all together.

Wake up insanely early, work on them under the moonlight, or sneak some time in between your kid's soccer game.

We don't care what you do, but just that you do it. Please, don't give up on them all together.

 

And oh, the irony....

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Day 21: If You're Reading This...

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Day 21: If You're Reading This...

THEY SAY "HOW YOU DO ANYTHING IS HOW YOU DO EVERYTHING"...

So if you're reading this damn early on the morning of Day 21, that says a lot.

Take a moment and think about the last month – everything you've gone through, learned about yourself, struggled with, and accomplished. Even the small wins.

Think about all the things you've undertaken and come through on.

Think about the fact that through all the struggle, you are still here on Day 21, showing up.

That simple fact says more about you than any of your accomplishments over the past 21 days.

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For the last month you committed to something that most are unwilling to and because of that, have been able to put the things that matter most front and centre.

Take a moment and think about how that feels.

Sure, some days might have been harder than others, and hell, some days might have not even happened at all, but what matters is it's Day 21 and you're still here.

That deserves a damn big round of applause.

See, while the rest of the world is caught up in the notion that success is determined solely by how smart someone is, the fact is that we know that's not the case.

It's not raw talent, good looks, social intelligence, physical health or smarts that determines someone's success.

Nope. The single trait most highly correlated with success is grit.

And if you're here today, reading this, then it's safe to say that you have it in spades.

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Grit is the perseverance you have for your long-term goals.

It is your stamina. Your willingness to keep fighting.

It's sticking with your future that you one day will have, day in and day out – not just for a few days or a week, but for as long as it takes to get there.

It's the willingness to work as hard as you need to in order to make your future a reality.

It's living life like it's a marathon, not a sprint. 

And that's exactly what you've shown you've got.

If you're here today, reading this, then you have the most valuable asset you need to achieve what you want.

Think about that. That's powerful.

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Knowing that we only have one single request from you this morning:

Take some time to focus on how this last month has impacted you and to celebrate the fact that you're still here, persevering and getting after it.

You'll gain more from properly decompressing this today, than you will from any amount of work you do. So make a hot cup, sit, and reflect this morning. 

We want you to really dive in and understand how your month was. Dive into the emotions you felt, the progress you made, the places you stumbled, what you hoped for, didn't expect, and how you feel now.

How does it feel to still be here?

Explore the good, the bad, the ugly, and everything in between, because while this is the end of the first month of 21 Damn Early Days, it's far from the end of it all.

 

LOOKING FORWARD

Damn Early Days isn't just about 21 days – it's about life. It's about being able to consistently focus on the things that matter. So naturally, as we came to the end of 21, a huge part of us didn't want it to end.

But thankfully, there's no awkward break up here.

We're stoked to say that for all those that have been involved in 21 this past month, we'll be keeping the vibes going high and the early AMs coming in fast this next month, starting in a few days. Having already done the 21 Day program, you can now move on to the DED Graduate program, where we go deeper on the things we started and together we keep this momentum going. 

We'll have an email out to you shortly with instructions on how to make this happen, but know on our end, we're committed to keeping it alive and growing it with you.

Now it's just up to you.

 

 

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Day 20: Anything Is Possible If You Pay The Price

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Day 20: Anything Is Possible If You Pay The Price

As we head into the last weekend of Damn Early Days with one more day 21 to go on Monday, we wanted to bring you back to something we touched on last week. Because sometimes it's powerful to revisit an idea again.

You get to choose who you want to be five years from now.

Let that sink in for a minute. Really sink in this time.

Yes, you get to make the choice of who you want to be five years from now.

That should be both insanely liberating and terrifying.

But the real facts are are that in today's world, five years is enough time to change almost any (and every) aspect of your life.

Your career, your love life, your priorities, your schedule, your time constraints, your debt, your income streams, you name it – all of those can be significantly changed within five years.

Damn Early Days might end in a few days

Knowing that, we have two simple questions for you to ask yourself this morning:

Who do you want to be in five years?
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Are you willing to pay the price?

See, the real truth isn't sexy, it's actually kind of boring and has been said a million different times: there’s no substitute for hard work.

You can learn, have, or be anything if you are willing to pay the price.

You can be a millionaire in not a long period of time.

You could be an established expert on any topic.

You could be a successful business owner.

You could have deep spiritual understanding.

You could do an Iron Man triathlon.

You could be an empathetic, caring, and loving person.

You could have beautiful and meaningful relationships with your romantic partner, business colleagues, mentors, and other people who inspire you.

You could be the person you know within yourself you can be.

You can live the life you know within yourself you are meant to live.

But you have to pay the price.

You have to actually make a decision. If you try to be everywhere, you’ll end up nowhere. If you try to be everyone, you’ll end up no one.

You have to choose what you want to do and who you want to be.

You have to forego the trivial many for the essential few.

You have to forego the endless good options for the few best ones.

You have to manage your mind and your time.

You can’t continue to justify living beneath your dreams.

You have to really want it. Because once you do, nothing will be able to stop you from having it.

You have to let go of your bad habits.

You have to re-arrange your priorities.

You have to say “No” more.

You need to put first things first, every single day.

You have to pay the price.

If you’re willing to pay the price, you can have absolutely anything you want.

But you need to be uncomfortable enough with your current situation to get off Facebook. To stop consuming and wasting your time.

To focus on learning and creating rather than being entertained and distracted.

There are probably dozens are recurring activities you do on a daily basis that aren’t serving you.

You need to drop those activities from your life. Leave them in your past and fill your future with the activities that will take you to where you really want to go.

When you have 5 extra minutes, what do you do? Do you entertain and distract yourself? Or do you pay the price?

When your alarm goes off in the morning, do you hit the snooze button or do you pay the price?

When you know you should be creating, do you distract yourself or do you pay the price?

When you’re with your loved ones, do you look at your smart phone or do you pay the price?

Are you serious or still pretending?

Do you really want it or are you still unsure?

Are you moving one step in 20 directions or 20 steps in one direction?

How many hours did you waste today? How many hours were you paying the price?

What do you really want?

Are you willing to pay the price?

Nothing in life is free, especially your time. Everything has a cost. And when it comes to your time, the cost is heavy. You can never get even one second back.

You can live your life on purpose. You can spend your time on things you value. You can be who you intended to become. You can continue to progress and evolve, even after you’ve become successful and fulfilled.

But the price must be payed.

You can’t fake it.

It’s available if you want it.

But you must choose it.

Article by Benjamin Hardy

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Day 19: If You Can't Be Here Now, Will You Ever Be Able To Be?

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Day 19: If You Can't Be Here Now, Will You Ever Be Able To Be?

Estimated Reading Time: 5 minutes

If you're like most of us, you spend a lot of your time focused on the future – thinking of where you want to go, what you need to do to get there and how fast you can make it happen.

It's the mindset of growth, development and innovation – and in a lot of ways, it's not a bad thing at all. It's the reason we grow, evolve and become better versions of ourselves.

It's what gives us purpose, aspirations and a reason to get out of bed at 4:30AM.

Hell, it's probably the reason you're here, right now, reading this.

But left unchecked, it also has a dark side.

In the pursuit of always wanting to get somewhere, we often forget where we actually are. The things happening around us and life as we are experiencing it – in this moment.

We get so blinded by where we want to go that we de-value where we are and the moments that are building towards our future.

We become so fixated on the end game that we forget to pay attention to the game we are in, right here, right now.

Rest assured – you lose nothing by making sure you spend time in this moment, focusing on where you are right now.

So, enjoy the work you're putting in today...
Enjoy the struggles you're enduring today...
Enjoy the investments in your future you're making today...

Even if they aren't exactly where you want to be – yet.

Know that all of them will add up to the future you want and you lose nothing by experiencing them, enjoying them and paying attention to them, today.

With an un-promised future, they are really all you got.

In the words of Alan Watts:

You can’t live at all, unless you can live fully now.
— Alan Watts

Take a watch. It's good.

Oh, and of course...

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Day 18: The Crossroads of Should and Must

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Day 18: The Crossroads of Should and Must

Estimated Reading Time: 16 minutes

"There are two paths in life: Should and Must. We arrive at this crossroads over and over again. And each time, we get to choose."

Every once in a while you come across an article that is so well put that to try and paraphrase it would be a crime.

This morning's article is just that and hinges around a question we have all asked ourselves at some point or another: “how can I find and follow what I know I’m meant to do on this planet?”

This is the moment that writer Elle Luna refers to as “standing at the crossroads of Should and Must.“Should” is what we feel we ought to be doing, or what is expected of us. “Must” is the thing we dream of doing. Her universal message: we get to choose the path between Should and Must each time.

This choice is the difference between jobs, careers, and callings, between going to work and becoming one with it, and why knowing what you want is often the hardest part.

It gives eye-opening insights for reconnecting with your inner voice and talks about the most common fears we have with choosing Must—money, time, space, and total vulnerability.

It explains the importance of mistakes, of “unlearning,” of solitude, of keeping moving, of following a path rooted in your soul.

Basically, it's the lesson you should have got in school, packed into one tight article filled with stories of and quotes from artists, writers, creators and thinkers who have faced their own crossroads of Should and Must – and taken the leap.

We'd say more but we'd much rather let the article speak for itself.

Dive on in by clicking the image below and enjoy your Monday.

PS. Article first, then morning jams.

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Day 17: Self-Awareness: Pt. 3 - The Many Areas of Self-Awareness

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Day 17: Self-Awareness: Pt. 3 - The Many Areas of Self-Awareness

Following up on Part 2 of Self-Awareness, all of this comes down to two things:

  1. The ability to understand and translate your feelings into words; and
  2. To take those translated feelings and better understand them to increase your quality of life.

Through self-awareness, you're trying to uncover what things about you are advantageous and which are harmful. From there, it's simple. Double down on the good stuff and eliminate the bad stuff, as much as possible.

Do more of the things that increase the quality of your life. Do more things that you're good at.
Do less of the things that make you unhappy. Do less of the things you're bad at.

That’s it. That’s knowing yourself.

Simple, huh?

Okay, it's a little deeper than that. I know it's early, but we're diving into the deep end, head first.
 

The Many Areas of Self–Awareness

As much as we've built the narrative in our head that we are simple and rational, one look at our behaviour on any given day says otherwise. Humans are complex, diverse, and often irrational creatures.

Self-awareness lets us build a better model of ourselves and understand what drives us.

Some key areas for building self-awareness include our emotions, personality traits, values, habits, needs, and physiological feelings that drive our behaviour.
 

Emotional

Emotional self-awareness is your ability to recognize your own emotions, what causes them, and the effects they have on your thoughts and actions. Building a strong sense of emotional self-awareness will allow you to:

  • Know what emotions you are feeling at any given time and understand why; 
  • Understand the link between your emotions and your thoughts, actions and reactions;
  • Understand how you're feeling and how it will affect your performance;
  • Understand how your emotional stance can be affecting those around you; and
  • Understand the links between your emotional health and your personal health and well-being.

A person with high emotional self-awareness understands the internal processes associated with emotional experiences and has greater control over them.
 

Personality

Personality self-awareness is an understanding of the characteristics that form our unique character. It is understanding the qualities that make you – you.

For most of us, our personalities don't change drastically throughout our lives – without personal intervention. By becoming self-aware about our personalities, we can help strengthen characteristics we like, weed out ones we don't, and find situations in which we will thrive in.
 

Values

Self-awareness of your values means understanding the things that you believe are important in the way you live, work and operate in your life.

Knowing your values will allow you to allocate the resources you have on the things that matter most to you. In a world where we are constantly bombarded with requests, knowing your values will help make sure you don't spend too much time on activities that don't amount to much for you in the long run. By focusing on your values, you're more likely to accomplish what you consider most important.
 

Habits

Habits are the behaviours that we repeat regularly and (mostly) automatically. Self-awareness of your habits means understanding the things you do daily that help or hinder you. 

Although we all would like to possess the habits that help us interact effectively with ourselves and the world, we can probably all identify at least one or two that decrease our effectiveness. Self-awareness of your habits will give you a platform to hone the good ones and eliminate the bad ones. All of this adds up to less effort and a better life in the long-run.
 

Needs

Needs are what create motivations and when they aren't satisfied, they can cause frustration, inner conflict and stress. Self-awareness of our needs is the understanding of what underlying things motivate us and whether they are fulfilled or not. It is an understanding of the psychological desires that drive us such as esteem, affection, security, belonging, achievement, power, control, and self-actualization.
 

Physical

Physical self-awareness is often the least talked about part of self-awareness, but can have a profound impact on your health and well-being. Here some quick questions to understand physical self-awareness.

  • How does my body feel in this moment?  Is it relaxed or tense?
  • Am I breathing shallow or deep?
  • When does my body feel most relaxed? When does by body feel most stressed?
  • Am I energetic or lethargic?
  • Where do I feel tension or pain?

Understanding physical self-awareness matters because often, many of the feelings talked about above, express themselves physically long before we understand them mentally. For example, when we are stressed our breathing shallows. When we are angered, our jaw tenses.

Understanding the physical is a gateway to understanding the emotional and mental.
 

Increasing Your Self–Awareness

Knowing yourself completely is a long and onerous tasks. It takes a life-time of learning, but considering you're the one that's stuck with you your entire life, you might as well try and get comfortable with it.

Know that you probably can't solve every problem overnight, but you can definitely make some headway. Like most good things, we'll suck in the beginning, but stick to it. The rewards are worth it.

Here are a few ways of doing increasing self-awareness:

1. Get To Know Your emotions

As the man Roosevelt once said “Men and women are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.” Until you understand your emotions, you have no power to control them.

The first step for practicing self-awareness is gaining a greater awareness of your emotions.

Most of us have been taught to shut our feelings out of any decision-making process and to rely solely on our rational thoughts. We place rationality above any kind of emotional understanding. Not only has science proven that humans emotionally prime every logical decision, not taking emotions into the equation puts our decision-making process out of balance. Our feelings are the internal advocate for our own ideals – whether we are aware of them or not. To make effective decisions, we need both rational thought and our feelings. We need to pay attention to our gut as much as our brain.

Bring greater awareness to your feelings by including them in your decisions. Listen to your gut and explore why your feelings might object to the decision of one of your rational thoughts.

Ask yourself, “Where is that feeling coming from and what does it mean?” Make a habit of recognizing your feelings. It's not easy at first, but you'll get the hang of it.

Once you can notice and understand your emotions, you give yourself the power to control them.

Self-awareness of emotion will help you to understand what you're feeling, stop you from reacting impulsively to them, and give you the opportunity to choose your response to any situation – and that’s the ultimate freedom.
 

2. Talk to yourself (and ask lots of questions).

Okay, this sounds a little insane, even at 4:30AM, but it's a proven way to get to know yourself better.

Throughout the day, ask yourself questions and answer them as if you were explaining the answer to someone on the outside. Simple things like "what am I feeling right now?" and "why am I feeling it?" are a good place to start.

These questions, reflected back on yourself, will help complete the picture of who you are, how you feel and act, and what matters to you.
 

3. Journal Often.

Our memory colours the past pretty deeply. To get a more accurate gauge of yourself, journal often. Make a habit of tracking what you're feeling and take stabs at why you might be feeling that way. Doing this will help make you much more aware of what you're doing, how you’re feeling, what problems might be on the horizon, and what matters to you.

Spend time each day/week writing down the little things and soon you'll start to notice larger trends that will give you a better understanding of yourself and allow you to correct.

For writing, I use both Day One and 750words.
 

4. Look at yourself objectively.

This is one of the hardest parts of self-awareness. Humans' are storytelling creatures and we tell no better stories than the ones we tell ourselves. 

The best way to look at yourself objectively – writing down what you're feeling in the moment and why you're feeling it. Then, when it's all said and done, go back and read over your actions from an outside perspective with data.

You'll soon begin to realize some of the many stories you tell yourself, which is the first step to correcting or accepting them.

Instead of spending your time thinking about what you should improve about yourself, think about what your friends, parents or co-workers might think you should improve about yourself. No, I'm not saying you go chase everyone else's expectations, but thinking in that light momentarily will let you look at this from someone else's perspective and gain a little extra insight into yourself.

Even better, find a trustworthy friend that you can talk to and get some honest feedback from. Yes, self-awareness requires some level of vulnerability.
 

5. Create your own manifesto.

For many of us, the main purpose of self-awareness is self-improvement. If that’s the case, we got to have some goals we’re working towards. Creating a personal manifesto is a great way to figure out who you are, what you care about, and what you want.

Refer back to it often.

 

6. Perform a self-review.

Almost all of us set goals, intentions and ambitions, but few of us actually stick around low enough to see how they turn out. 

No matter how overwhelming clear it is that this is a good thing, the majority of us won't stick to it. Why? Because it's tough.

Setting up time to periodically review your thoughts, actions, and self-awareness long in advance can give you something to hold you accountable to down the road. This can include going through old journals, looking at key understandings and insights about yourself and spending sometime to track it against who you want to become.

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Day 16: The Power of Tiny Gains

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Day 16: The Power of Tiny Gains

 

Success is a few simple disciplines, practiced every day
failure is simply a few errors in judgment, practiced every day.

—Jim Rohn

 

Estimated Read Time: 6 minutes

As you go through Damn Early Days, you might be wondering if a single morning really matters?

I mean, in today's world it's the huge transformations and overnight success stories that get all the hype.

And why wouldn't they – they just sound so damn good.

“I lost 30 pounds in 30 days without lifting a weight”
“I made $60,000 in TWO months without leaving my couch”
"I found happiness and rode off into sunset with the love of my dreams all by taking a magic pill...

Those words and words like them litter the pages of magazines, blogs, infomercials, and courses everywhere. And with that kind of ubiquity, you’d almost be foolish NOT to believe them.

But if you’ve ever talked to anyone that has done anything of accomplishment then you know how much merit they have – nil.

Despite the underlying knowledge that there is no shortcut, we still flock to these get {insert lofty, audacious goal} quick schemes like a moth to the flame, believing that we will be the lucky ones who part the sea and get to bask in the glory without putting in the work.

But look around and let me know how that's doing for most people.

 

Breaking Our Biology

There seems to be some sort of (faulty) wiring in humans that overwhelmingly underestimates what it takes to accomplish big goals and grossly overestimates what it takes to accomplish a series of small tasks.

We buy into the narrative of a heroic, defining moment where we achieve it all and completely negate the value of making numerous small but good decisions on a daily basis. We convince ourselves that the change is only meaningful if there is some crazy large visible outcome associated with it.

And we're all miserable because of it.

See, not only is it causing us to fail, it's causing most of us not to try at all. For the sake of sanity and your life, this morning, we’re going to break that notion and make your life a hell of a lot easier (because we kind of feel bad about the whole 4:30AM thing).

 

Welcome To The World of Tiny Gains

People don’t suck at creating habits. In fact, they are really good at it.

What they suck at is choosing the right habits to build.

Most of our habits are decided haphazardly, driven by short-term desires with no care or understanding of their long-term effects on us.

Almost every habit you have — good or bad — is the result of numerous small decisions, repeated over time. There was no point that you “got smart” or “became fit”. It was a gradual change that happened through thousands of tiny choices, again and again. At some point you looked back on it all and were smarter or fitter – hopefully both?

Yet, when it comes to setting new goals and ambitions, this knowledge is the first thing we throw out the window. We choose to forget how easy it can be to follow simple decisions everyday and instead choose to focus on the biggest, baddest, most ambitious thing we can – the outcome.
 

Looking at Tiny Gains

Tiny gains are small decisions made frequently that move you slowly and steadily forward. They start small and add up to something big.

The math is simple. If you focus on simply getting 1% better every day, in 365 days you will be almost 38 times better.

Yep – 38 times better.

On the flip side, if you're bad habit is making you 1% worse every day, you'll be left with virtually nothing at the end of year. This applies to running, money, learning and just about every other life goal that can be quantified. Yet at no point are you growing (or shrinking) more than 1%.

Want to write a book? Start by writing a paragraph the first day and gradually increase how much you write as it becomes easier.

Want to run a marathon but couldn't even chase down the ice cream truck last time it was around? Start by putting on your shoes and walking around your block. Then run for 10 seconds and walk for a minute. Increase from there.

Want to learn to meditate like a zen ninja, but can't sit still for 10 seconds? Start right now by stopping everything and taking just 3 breathes. Then step it up and go back for 4.

It sounds simple – and, well, it is.

In a world of huge transformations and instant gratification, consistency trumps big but short-lived spurts of energy, every single day of the week.

Find something worth sticking to, break it down into tiny components, and get after it – bit by bit, day by day.
 

So, Why Don’t We (The World) Embrace Tiny Gains?

If they are so easy and awesome, why don't we all embrace them?

Well, there's a simple reason: in the moment they feel insignificant, unsexy, and have no emotional charge.

Basically, they are boring.

If you don't believe me, tell the next person you see that you just did one push-up and tell me how they respond.

That's what I thought...

But the truth is, if you're previous best was zero push-ups then one push-up is infinitely better and closer to 100 push-ups than most people.

See, many of us would rather bask in the what-ifs of lofty goals than do the dirty (and sometimes boring) work that will help us get where we want to go. We'd rather talk about the potential of the success we could have than put in the time.

Don't be one of those people.

To make it worse, when people who are at the top talk about building the company, losing the pounds, or writing the book, they talk about it as a singular thing. They make it seem like success happened in moments, rather than being the accumulation of months, years or even decades of work adding up.

It's easy to let yourself fall prey to these stories and let them trick you into doing too much, too soon. When you get motivated and inspired to take it to the next level, it's easy to fixate only on the end result (ex: every single New Year's goal). It's natural to think that we need the result, the transformation, the overnight success. But know that it's not what you need. You need better habits.

Audacious life goals can be fantastic and we're proud you have them. But let’s be honest for a second, it’s probably those audacious goals that are the very thing stopping you from getting where you want to go.

There is power in small wins and slow gains. Break it down. Keep it simple.

Tiny gains will take care of the rest.

And because you made it this far, you deserve this.

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Day 15: Anything Is Possible If You Pay The Price

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Day 15: Anything Is Possible If You Pay The Price

As we head into the last full week of Damn Early Days, we got something for you to think about...

You get to choose who you want to be five years from now.

Let that sink in for a minute.

Yes, you get to make the choice of who you want to be five years from now.

That should be both insanely liberating and terrifying.

But the real facts are that in today's world, five years is enough time to change almost any (and every) aspect of your life.

Your career, your love life, your priorities, your schedule, your time constraints, your debt, your income streams, you name it – all of those can be significantly changed within five years.

 

Knowing that, we have two simple questions for you to ask yourself this morning:

Who do you want to be in five years?
&
Are you willing to pay the price?

See, the real truth isn't sexy, it's actually kind of boring and has been said a million different times: there’s no substitute for hard work.

You can learn, have, or be anything if you are willing to pay the price.

You can be a millionaire in not a long period of time.

You could be an established expert on any topic.

You could be a successful business owner.

You could have deep spiritual understanding.

You could do an Iron Man triathlon.

You could be an empathetic, caring, and loving person.

You could have beautiful and meaningful relationships with your romantic partner, business colleagues, mentors, and other people who inspire you.

You could be the person you know within yourself that you can be.

You can live the life you know within yourself you are meant to live.

But you have to pay the price.

You have to actually make a decision. If you try to be everywhere, you’ll end up nowhere. If you try to be everyone, you’ll end up no one.

You have to choose what you want to do and who you want to be.

You have to forego the trivial many for the essential few.

You have to forego the endless good options for the few best ones.

You have to manage your mind and your time.

You can’t continue to justify living beneath your dreams.

You have to really want it. Because once you do, nothing will be able to stop you from having it.

You have to let go of your bad habits.

You have to re-arrange your priorities.

You have to say “No” more.

You need to put first things first, every single day.

You have to pay the price.

If you’re willing to pay the price, you can have absolutely anything you want.

But you need to be uncomfortable enough with your current situation to get off Facebook. To stop consuming and wasting your time.

To focus on learning and creating rather than being entertained and distracted.

There are probably dozens of recurring activities you do on a daily basis that aren’t serving you.

You need to drop those activities from your life. Leave them in your past and fill your future with the activities that will take you to where you really want to go.

When you have 5 extra minutes, what do you do? Do you entertain and distract yourself? Or do you pay the price?

When your alarm goes off in the morning, do you hit the snooze button or do you pay the price?

When you know you should be creating, do you distract yourself or do you pay the price?

When you’re with your loved ones, do you look at your smart phone or do you pay the price?

Are you serious or still pretending?

Do you really want it or are you still unsure?

Are you moving one step in 20 directions or 20 steps in one direction?

How many hours did you waste today? How many hours were you paying the price?

What do you really want?

Are you willing to pay the price?

Nothing in life is free, especially your time. Everything has a cost. And when it comes to your time, the cost is heavy. You can never get even one second back.

You can live your life on purpose. You can spend your time on things you value. You can be who you intended to become. You can continue to progress and evolve, even after you’ve become successful and fulfilled.

But the price must be payed.

You can’t fake it.

It’s available if you want it.

But you must choose it.

Article by Benjamin Hardy

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Day 14: Self-Awareness: Pt. 2 - Why We Don't Embrace It

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Day 14: Self-Awareness: Pt. 2 - Why We Don't Embrace It

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Photo Credit: Tom Hussey

"Books can guide you but your heart defines you." – Jay-Z

If the rewards from the Self-Awareness Dose a few days back sounded so damn good, then we got to ask "why don’t we chase self-awareness more than we do."

This morning, we'll dive into exactly why, but to sum it up: it's uncomfortable, difficult, scary, and not common. All of these will initially make us shy away from it, but once we get over those emotional fears, what's waiting on the other side is more than worth it.

Play close attention because a lot of what we will talk about is your brain tricking you away from everything you actually want in life so that it can stay emotionally cozy.

"Emotionally cozy" might sound good in the short-term, but let's get real, you can't bullshit yourself on your death bed.

A little discomfort now will go a LONG way in making sure you don't have to.
 

Reason 1.
Self awareness Is (Temporarily) painful.

Real habit change comes from taking a candid look at our shortcomings. And let's be honest, no one wants to admit we suck at things – especially in our perfectionist society.

Unfortunately, unless we know where we're falling short, we can't change them.

 

Reason 2.
EXPLORING ourselves IS SCARY and requires uncertainty.

If you fall into the narrative told to us, you believe that you have to have it all figured out. Becoming self-aware about unresolved feelings threatens everything we thought we were supposed to be working towards – that "self-assured, got it all together" person.

It requires us to step out and use these three devil-ish words: "I don't know".

And without a commitment to working through it, we build mechanisms to ignore these feelings, thinking that if we shy away from them for long enough, they’ll go away.

Reality check – they don't.

They just burrow deep inside our lives and manifest in a million different ways (ie. flipping the bird to that "asshole" that cut you off in traffic...)

I strongly encourage you NOT to bury these feelings as they'll never truly go away.

Instead, sit with your uncertainty. Work through it.

Do the dirty work to figure out what's causing the feelings and figure out ways to find stable footing in them.

It's from that place that we do our best growth.

At the very least you will learn more about yourself and how you can live in closer alignment with who you really are.
 

Reason 3.
WE BUILD A SELF-IMAGE OF HOW WE WANT OTHERS TO PERCEIVE US.

It is extremely difficult to humbly admit a shortcoming instead of fabricating a tale to mitigate the blow.

You might view yourself as someone who is always on time, but in reality, you’re often late to appointments. It's so much easier to come up with "justifications" than it is to admit you're constantly not living up to your commitment.

Self-awareness is about focusing on the reality of your actions, behaviours, and habits, and not on the story you tell yourself – no matter how juicy it is.

Part of this is to justify to ourselves, but also it's to appease others.

Generally, when we are late, we know the reasons we throw out there have no weight, but still we throw them anyways to save face.

Breaking this justification is really tough to do, but your ability to call yourself out on the things that don't align with who you want to be will not only help you build stronger and more honourable relationships with people, but they will allow you to course correct significantly more quickly.
 

Reason 4.
The pursuit of self-awareness is difficult and requires dedication.

To be conscious of who you are, how you think, and what you do is invaluable because it leads to self-knowledge, and in turn, change.

And isn't that what we all want?

This is why in practices like Alcoholics Anonymous and most cognitive behavioural therapies, there is a commitment to first helping the individual become self-aware—to be conscious of their fears, thoughts, behaviours, mustering the courage to own it, and using that awareness to facilitate the behaviour change. 

The dedication requires us to change our mind AND behaviour and can sometimes be the fight of our lives.

But, at the end of the day, it's a choice and if you want it bad enough, you can make it.

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Know that it's in our nature to habituate and create routines, so that our brain exerts less effort and spends less energy. The potential danger in this is that we get too comfortable doing the wrong things, and if we are unaware of it, we have no desire to make it right.

What makes this pursuit even more difficult is that it isn't a popular topic in our culture. In very few places is it championed, so when you do step out you kind of feel alone.

As you move forward with Damn Early Days, just know that your commitment to your own self-awareness will single-handedly be one of the most powerful things you can gain from this.

And you're not in it alone.

Take 5 and go drop your thoughts on self-awareness in the Facebook group what does it mean for you this month?  Then go throw on the jam below and get after it!

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Day 13: The Power of Vulnerability

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Day 13: The Power of Vulnerability

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It's been a heavy week, material-wise, so today we're switching it up and got a rad video below.

Before we do, take a second to read why this topic is so damn important.

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At its core, vulnerability is about risk, uncertainty, and emotional exposure. It’s about showing up and being seen – as you are.

For many of us, we're never taught how to deal with this uncertainty or how to manage the emotional risk that comes with it, so we spend our time trying to outrun and outsmart it. We do this by making things definite and certain – black and white, good and bad - and by shying away from the opportunity to explore the muddled (and uncomfortable) gray zone that exists in almost everything.

This inability to lean into the discomfort that vulnerability brings ultimately stops us from being able to fully feel all the things we set out to chase in the first place – joy, creativity, trust, love, fulfillment, and belonging.

It stops us from truly putting ourselves out there, being seen, and exploring what actually matters to us – and what doesn't.

So this morning, before we dive into life, we'll leave you with this – one of the most powerful talks on vulnerability out there.

If you haven't heard of Brené Brown, sit back and submerse yourself. There's a reason this is one of the most viewed TED Talks ever and it's worth every second.

Enjoy.

And because it's almost Friday...

Photo Credit: Ally Pintucci

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Day 12: Let's Talk Triggers Pt. 2

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Day 12: Let's Talk Triggers Pt. 2

As we mentioned in Part 1, triggers are some of the magic of Damn Early Days, as not only is it at a time of day when you’re fresh and have a clear mind, but you also have nothing in front of you except for the things you really want to focus on.

That's a powerful combo I think we all need more of.

But for the benefit of the rest of our lives, we want to look beyond just the early wake up. Understanding all the triggers out there and how they form will give you a much better sense of awareness as to the behavioural programming that guides most of your life. It will also greatly increase your ability to build habits you care about, including getting to bed on time.

 

CHOOSING A TRIGGER

The best part about triggers is that you don’t need to spend a bunch of effort creating new ones. The triggers already exist in your life. You just need to identify which ones are already ingrained into your daily routine and then tag a new habitual behaviour onto it.

Some examples of triggers you might already have:

  • Waking up
  • Brushing your teeth
  • Showering
  • Eating breakfast
  • Reading your morning news/blogs/checking email in the morning
  • Commuting to work
  • Coming into the office in the morning
  • Eating lunch
  • Commuting home
  • Arriving home
  • A morning meeting
  • Taking the kids to school

There are many other examples, which we'll explore below, and the trick is to find ones that happen regularly and that you know are good for you.

 

The 5 Kinds of Triggers

Triggers, in essence, can be anything that causes a behaviour. So any event or stimulus from the environment – or even the thoughts, feelings, and emotions from our brain – can be used.

When you put it that way, you'll realize there is a dizzying array of ways that behaviour can be initiated. This is why it’s sometimes difficult to identify the trigger that causes a particular behaviour.

But don't worry, they are easily broken down into five different categories. If you understand each of them, then you can select the right one for the particular habit that you are working on.

 

TRIGGER 1: TIME

As one of the most common triggers, time is used to regulate our daily schedules. We wake up at a certain time, eat around midday, and go to bed at regular times. It is one of the most easily recognizable triggers and one of the easiest to build habits on.

 

TRIGGER 2: ENVIRONMENT / LOCATION

Being in a certain area or environment can cause certain behaviours to kick in.

When you enter a room, you may automatically turn on the light. When you leave a room you might shut the door. If you have ever walked into your kitchen, saw some snacks on the counter and just eaten them because they were in front of you, then you already understand the power of Environment / Location on our behaviour.

Environment / Location is one the most powerful drivers of automatic habits and also the least recognized. In many cases, our habits and behaviours are simply a response to the environment that surrounds us. Go to a bar and try not to drink. It’s a lot harder than it should be.

The flip side to this is that if you change your environment, you’ll likely be able to create new habits quite easily – so long as the new environment is conducive to the habit you’re trying to form.

 

TRIGGER 3: EVENTs

Many habits are a response to something else that happens in your life. Your phone vibrates, so you pick it up and check the latest notification. Facebook drops a sound in your browser so you automatically jump to check it. The little red bubble pops-up in the corner of the app icon, so we open it up to see what it could be. These are examples of habits that are triggered by a preceding event.

When it comes to leveraging triggers to build habits, events can be one of the most useful and easiest to understand. When you get the hang of it, you can start stacking triggers and habits on top of each other to create a powerful cascade of things that all move you forward. This is some of the science behind evening and morning routines.

 

TRIGGER 4: EMOTIONAL STATE

Emotional state is a powerful trigger, but one that generally precedes negative habits, rather than positive. You know, reaching for those cookies when you’re feeling a little down or mindlessly scrolling through Instagram when you’re feeling anxious. Or, maybe you default to online shopping when you’re feeling bored?

These different emotional states will trigger different habits in you.

Unfortunately, although emotions are very common triggers for our behaviour, I find that they are harder to control and utilize for building good habits. Mostly, I think this is because if you want an emotion to trigger a positive habit, then you often need to be consciously aware of the emotion as you are experiencing it. In other words, you have to be emotional and aware at the same time … and that can be hard to do. Paying attention is a powerful, but difficult, way to build better habits.

All that said, noticing emotional triggers is important as it's how most online companies (Facebook, Instagram, Etsy, Amazon, etc.) have created the user behaviour to come back to their platform again and again. Noticing how you're feeling and linking that to why you end up online can be a powerful eye-opener for you to be aware of.

 

TRIGGER 5: THE PEOPLE YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH

It should be no surprise that the people you surround yourself with play a huge role in the development of who you become. As Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” So last, but not least, the people you surround yourself with can act as triggers for certain behaviours.

You may not care to drink tonight, but when you're with your friends you may feel more inclined to grab a glass of wine. Or maybe, the only reason you're doing Damn Early Days is because you're doing it with a friend.

Either way, the people you hang with can be a major trigger for you and used properly, your social circle can be one of the most powerful habit builders you have.

 

CHOOSING A TRIGGER

Now that you understand triggers, the key is to actually use them to make our lives easier.

No matter what trigger you choose, there is one important thing to know – the key to choosing a successful trigger is to pick one that is specific and immediately actionable.

Every single day, commit to doing your new habit right after the trigger. Immediately — with no delay. You’ll need to do this very consciously at first. You might want to post a reminder for yourself where you won’t forget it.

When you do the trigger, do the habit without fail.

As always, self-experimentation is the only real answer. Play around with these five habit triggers and see what works for you.

Hell, combine triggers with Mel Robbins "5 Second Rule", and you can really quickly become a powerhouse.

That's it for this morning.

And because you made it through that, I got some goods for you...

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Day 11: Your Life In Perspective

Day 11: Your Life In Perspective

This article is the crux of why Damn Early Days – and what you do with it – matters.

Whether you've read it before or are seeing it for the first time, I challenge you to dive into it. To think about it within the context of your life, and to really try to understand the point it is trying to make.

See, it can be hard for any of us to understand the value of a single day, week, or even a month within the larger context of life.

In the "grand scheme of things", a day or three really doesn't seem like a big deal.

Besides, if we're lucky, we get like 33,000+ of them.

But take a look at this visual from our friend Tim Urban at Wait But Why.

Here is your entire life in weeks, assuming you live until 90.

 
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Yeah, that's all you get.

That is your entire life in weeks. 4,680 of them – if you're lucky.

Sobering when you put it like that.

In that space is every dream you'll ever dream, every desire you'll ever have, and every chance you'll get to focus on the things that matter.

And considering that, for most of us, at least 25% of it is already behind us, you can knock off the first 20 or 30 rows.

The rest is what you have to spend as you please.

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Looking at it that way, it's much easier to understand why how you spend your time matters so much.

It should put into perspective what is and isn't important.

Think about it – assuming you're 30 years old:

  • If you drink a good cup of coffee each morning, that's just 22,000 "first cups" left. Enjoy.
  • If you get 4 good hugs a week, that's just 12,500 good hugs left in your life.
  • If you see your parents once every three months and they live for another 40 years, that’s just 120 more times you'll see them.
  • If you go on two good vacations each year, that means you have no more than 120 vacations left in your life.
  • If you see an old friend once a year, that's just ~60 more times you will see them in your life.
  • If you go on a rad road trip once every 3 years, that's just ~20 left in life. 

You get the point...

How you spend your time in the days and weeks matters, because they add up to months, months add up to years, and those years are all you get – 90 of them, if you're lucky.

Your time – and how you spend it – matters.

Please spend it on the stuff that actually matters to you.

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If you want to dive deeper into this subject, take a read of the original article in the button below.

Scroll halfway down and it gets into the good stuff.

We recommend you do, because it's one of the simplest and most powerful reads we know.

And some solid jams to listen to as you contemplate how you want to spend your time.

Day 10: Let's Reflect

Day 10: Let's Reflect

As we roll into the end of the second week of the program, we want to take a moment and acknowledge what we all have collectively done these last two weeks.

Over the past two weeks, hundreds of you have committed to winning at your own game and dove into something that most are unwilling to.

You put what matters to you before the world had a chance to take that space away.

More than that though, you played a part in building a community spanning over 10 countries and almost every time zone. That means at almost any time of the day, someone around the world is getting up to get after it.

That's powerful and we want to thank you for your willingness to embrace that side of life.

We think that's pretty damn cool.

 

Before We Look Ahead

Before looking at what's ahead, it’s worth taking time to sit back and reflect on what just happened.

Most of us have a fear of slowing down – unwilling to stop long enough to let what we’re doing catch up to us. Maybe this is because we don’t want to confront how we spend our time or maybe it’s because we feel like we’ll lose momentum, but if there’s anything history has taught us, it’s that slowing down to reflect only helps us move faster, further, and more purposefully.

With that, we have a single request from you this morning – take some time to reflect on what these last two weeks have been for you.

It will not only make a big difference in the rest of your 21 Damn Early Days experience but if you incorporate reflection into your life, it will have a huge impact on where you end up.

To get you started, we got some simple questions...

 

Questions Worth Thinking About

Keep in mind these are just a guideline to get you started. Your reflection is an exercise in asking the questions you care about.

About Damn Early Days:

Ask yourself:

  • What have you gained from waking up early?
  • What are your biggest struggles so far?
  • What positive stories have you been telling yourself throughout?
  • What self-defeating stories have you been telling yourself throughout?
  • Do you feel you're getting closer to what you want?
  • What differences do you notice in your life, routine, and mood before and during 21 Damn Early Days?
  • What emotions have you gone through? What caused them?
  • Were there mornings that were particularly tough? What contributed to them being that way?
  • Were there mornings that were particularly enjoyable? What made them more enjoyable?

Looking Forward:

Ask yourself:

  • Put yourself in your own shoes at the end of Damn Early Days. What do you want out of this? What defines “success”?
  • What do you want to feel at the end of this?
  • What do you need to do next week to move yourself closer to your own success?
  • What can you carry into next week that you learned this week? What can you drop?
  • What’s the top priority in your life right now?
  • How can you use 21 Damn Early Days to focus on it?

And of course...

Day 9: Self-Awareness, Pt. 1

Day 9: Self-Awareness, Pt. 1

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It’s (always) worth taking some time to talk about and understand self-awareness.

Like most of the concepts important to a full life, the word “self-awareness” has been over-used, under-delivered on, and in many ways washed of its meaning.

So before we dive in, let’s take a second to drop the mainstream BS we’ve heard about self-awareness. Not doing so might ruin one of the most valuable things we got.
 

So, What Is “Self–Awareness”?

The simplest and most down to earth way to understand what self-awareness is is to break it down into its components.

“Awareness” is what you notice in life. It’s about paying attention to what’s around you, spending time reflecting and analyzing it, and about having knowledge or perception on a certain situation or set of facts. It's the details you pick up by paying attention to the world around you and actively taking in and processing your environment.

In many ways, it’s how you experience life.

Nowadays, with the increased flow of communication and information, there’s an endless amount of stuff to be aware of. Understanding awareness and being able to only take in what matters and filtering out the noise is more important than ever. Hell, just look up from this post and scan what’s around you. What did you just notice that has been in front of you the whole time?

Keep in mind that everybody takes in the world slightly differently. We all notice certain things depending on the lenses we use to look at the world through. No form is right or wrong, they are just different. All can be useful or damaging depending on the situation and are determined by both natural and learned tendencies.

Looking at the other half, “self”, is simply reflecting that awareness back on you. It is paying attention to the world inside you, actively taking in and processing your physical sensations, thoughts, feelings, habits, actions, emotions, and reactions to life – honestly.

Building self-awareness means you are aware of all those different aspects, as if you were another person on the outside observing them.
 

"Spend your life building, but please don’t spend it building the wrong things."
 

Why It Matters

Self-awareness will help you cut the noise and more quickly align with the important stuff – determined by you. It's the foundation of figuring out who you are, where you are, and where you want to go.

Growth

Self-improvement and growth isn’t possible without self-awareness. Any kind of improvement requires an understanding of where you currently are and the gap between that and where you want to go.

Self-awareness gives you an honest and accurate sense of who you are and helps you sort out what you need to improve. It will reveal what gaps you have that you need to work on or accept.

Strengths and Shortcomings

Self-awareness will help you sort out what you’re good at and what you suck at. Knowing both will help you focus your energy where you can have a big impact.

For example, believe it or not, I suck at getting up early (or more honestly going to bed at the right time). Left to my own devices, 9PM bedtimes quickly turn into 11PM, which rolls into the early hours of the morning. However, I crave what mornings bring. Understanding how bad I am at getting them and how much I gain from them, I know it’s important to surround myself with people who hold me accountable to getting up early and do so effortlessly. This not only gets me out of bed early every day, but makes sure I need way less willpower to do so.

Intuition

While we have built a society that deeply respects logic, we are now beginning to understand the importance of intuition and how our emotional brain and gut-feelings actually work. The science clearly shows we shouldn't discount them.

A well-developed self-awareness will help you understand what and why your intuition is nudging you in the direction it is. Given that many of the decisions we make in our daily lives are done so with large amounts of unstructured and ambiguous information, a honed self-awareness can help us maker decisions that are more in line with who we are and do so more effectively.

Self-awareness can’t change the world as it is, but it can change the way you interpret the world and that can improve your experience of life. Self-awareness can create an understanding and opportunities for better work-life balance, help you to become more aware of your thoughts and emotions, and improve your ability to respond to the world.

To put it frankly, self-awareness will help put you in control. Not of the world around you, but in how you react and respond to it and that's the key to a good life.
 

"To have greater self awareness or understanding means to have a better grasp of reality."
– Dalai Lama
 

Self-Awareness and 21 Damn Early Days

If you’re in this challenge, I assume you want more time in your life and want to get more done. To get that, you’ve opted to get up early and create that time.

Throughout 21 Damn Early Days, our goal isn’t to tell you what you need to do and know, it’s to give you frameworks to decide that for yourself. That foundation of deciding comes down to your self-awareness.

Looking at that, the true point of 21 Damn Early Days isn't to under sleep, get up damn early and grind out just to get a little further ahead. It’s to create a structure that allows us to have a distraction-free period each day where we can focus on the things we deem most important.

For many of us, we’re unknowingly drawn to the morning because it brings a distraction-free, FOMO-free period that's void of life’s typical interruptions. But in reality, with the right discipline, we could create this period any time of day.

Self-awareness is the tool that will help you sort out what works best for you and the life you want to live. 

As you go through the rest of 21 Damn Early Days, I challenge you to increase your self-awareness, giving yourself a better understanding of why you're doing this, what you want from it, how you're feeling throughout, and what it enables you to do.

We'll have more on that in the days to come.

But until then, this should quench your thirst.

Day 8: Let's Talk Triggers Pt. 1

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Day 8: Let's Talk Triggers Pt. 1

Contrary to what you might think, Damn Early Days is designed to make your life easier, not harder.

Weird, right?

But if you keep reading, it will all start to make sense.

Getting Started With "TRIGGERS"

Triggers are the little-known secret to forming new habits (or breaking old ones) and whether or not you’ve consciously heard of them before, they’ve helped run a majority of your life.

A trigger is an event that automatically kicks off the urge to start a habit.

It may be waking up in the morning, your first cup of coffee, climbing into bed at night, or getting a notification on your phone – there are literally thousands.

Each one of these (and the thousands of others) can, if designed right, start a cascade of other behaviours – some good, some bad.

But just know that used properly, they are your best friend.

 

SOME TRIGGERS YOU ALREADY KNOW

To give you a better idea of what constitutes a trigger, we’ve listed some below. Take a read through and think about your day-to-day life and you’ll realize they are everywhere.

Trigger: wake-up in the morning
Action: crave a coffee, have a shower, brush your teeth, kiss your significant other

Trigger: smell McDonald's fries as you drive past their restaurant.
Action: desire to eat those french fries

Trigger: get a notification on your phone
Action: check phone, open a certain app

Trigger: hear knock at the door
Action: get up, walk over, answer it

Trigger: get in your car and start driving
Action: turn on music, put your phone in the GPS holder, put on your seat belt

I could go on...

What makes triggers so powerful is that they move from trigger to action more-or-less unconsciously.

Designed and implemented right, you don't have to put much conscious thought into brushing your teeth each day, responding to notifications, or driving your car.

And that’s the point.

The power of triggers lies in the fact that they start a more-or-less unconscious habitual behaviour.

 

USING TRIGGERS TO MAKE LIFE EASIER

Now herein lies some of the magic of Damn Early Days – waking up damn early can be one of the most powerful triggers there is.

Not only is it done at a time of day when you’re fresh and have a clear mind, but it’s also a time of day when you have nothing in front of you. You are free to focus on whatever you want to focus on.

That's a powerful combination.

Designed properly, triggers can be powerful tools that will keep you focused day-after-day and help you chip away at your goals without nearly as much effort as we’re used to putting into them.

They are something that pushes us to have an automatic response that leads us where we want to go.

Habits will become automatic after we’ve created a bond between the trigger and the habit and the stronger the bond, the more ingrained the habit.
 

How To Use Them

The key to triggers is to slowly build the habitual behaviour you want right behind a trigger that you know happens often. We want to put our new habits on autopilot, right after a trigger.

With Damn Early Days the trigger should be waking up damn early and the action should be whatever you have defined as the actions that will get you to your SUMMIT.

Then, what you want to do is create a strong bond between the trigger and the new habit. In the beginning, each time the trigger happens, you will need to consciously perform the new habit. It will likely be very conscious and deliberate at first, but over time it will get easier and the new habit becomes almost automatic.

Once it becomes automatic, life becomes a lot easier.

Knowing that, you can start to look at so many other areas of your life and notice where triggers play a roll, as well as areas you can identify triggers you can use.

This morning, I want you to identify at least 5 existing triggers and the corresponding action that exists in your life, as well as 5 existing behaviours you have right now that could act as triggers for something good.

We'll leave it at that for the morning and dive in deeper a little later on.

For now, I got some jams while you sort out some existing triggers.

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Day 7: How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over

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Day 7: How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over

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We all know what to do. We just don’t know how to convince ourselves to do it.
— Mel Robbins

If you really wanted to, you could walk into a bookstore right now and buy at least 10 books by authors in any area you wanted to pursue.

You could open up Google and find at least 100 step-by-step-by-step instruction guides on how to get it.

Hell, you can search anybody online that's "been there / done that" and be in touch with them in under an hour.

So why don't most of us have what we want?

Well according to Mel Robbins, one of the most badass experts on leadership and defeating doubt, it's because we have an instinctual habit of screwing ourselves over.

Watch as she drills through the mental clutter that stands between ourselves and what we want and gives us a straight-forward answer on how to get after what we want.

Sit back and enjoy it.

It's worth it.

In five seconds flat, self-doubt can take over and rob you of your power, and rob you of joy, and rob you of potential. Or in five seconds flat, you can use one stupid little trick, to take it all back.
— Mel Robbins

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Day 5: Time To Talk Weekends

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Day 5: Time To Talk Weekends

When we first started Damn Early Days, we very purposely decided NOT to include them in the official 21 days for one simple reason:

We started this create a better life for ourselves, not just prove that we can grind out a month of hell. We wanted to create a space that we would consistently be able (and want to) show up to, month-after-month, year-after-year. We know this was a key to this being successful in the long run.

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Day 3: You Have To Be Willing To Fail

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Day 3: You Have To Be Willing To Fail

One of the biggest things we hear is how people don't realize there are so many others going through this.

There is.

Take some time out today – either right now or later in the day – to share with the rest of the community why you are here and what you hope to get out of Damn Early Days.

Sometimes, powerful things can happen when you put your intentions out to a group like this.

At the very least, you'll realize so many other people are going through the same struggles you are.

 

 

Day 3: You Have To Be Willing To Fail

Let's be honest, most people are not willing to fail.

They hate it.

They run from it.

In their eyes, if they suck at something, it means they suck. Since their self-worth is tied directly to their performance, any failure is proof they aren’t good enough.

Sound familiar?

But that is exactly why most of them stay mediocre.

If they aren’t willing to fail, they aren’t able to learn from their mistakes. If they never learn, they’ll never grow and develop into something more.

 

"Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success."

- Thomas J. Watson   
 

 

IF YOU’RE NOT WILLING TO FAIL
YOU GUARANTEE YOU’LL STAY AVERAGE-AT-BEST.

If you want to grow into an extraordinary version of yourself, you must be willing to fail — a lot.

That sucks to hear, but it's also the truth spewed by so many of the greats over the last 1,000 years.

Failure brings humility.

It develops your character.

It helps you laugh at your mistakes and not take things so seriously.

Like a plant placed from the shade into sunlight, your growth rate will accelerate 10x.

If you embrace the possibility of failure, you open yourself up to enormous success you’ve never seen before.

Keep that in mind as you go through Damn Early Days.

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And because life is better with music, I got something for you.

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